Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Sun, 05/01/2011 - 11:27
I was speaking in New York recently and was asked an excellent question by a man who has ADHD. The gist of it was this:
“My girlfriend sends me emails all the time when I’m at work and then gets angry with me when I don’t respond consistently. My reaction is to simply tell her ‘I’m distracted – I’ve got ADHD. I often forget to respond to you. Get over it!’ What do you think about that response?” Here’s my answer: >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 04/28/2011 - 14:54
Calling all readers with ADHD - how do you stay organized? What works for you, and why? I'm particularly interested in electronic ways to stay organized via the iPhone or BB or computer. Share your ideas here with others on the site!
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 03/31/2011 - 15:46
There is some conversation going on right now in the forums questioning whether it is appropriate to make generalizations about people with ADHD. One person suggests this is insulting or hurtful to group those with ADHD together. Another poster asks: ‘if "they" (people with ADHD) are all so completely different, why do we keep hearing the same behaviors (forgetting, interrupting, not handling money well, etc.) coming up over and over?’ I would like to respond to this question in the blog, rather than in the forums. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 03/30/2011 - 16:25
I want to remind readers of three events coming up. In chronological order:
- The early registration discount for our upcoming course for therapists ends April 1. Professionals, please go to this link for more information. Faculty is Dr. Hallowell, Melissa Orlov, Dr. Kevin Murphy and Sue Hallowell and the syllabus is terrific.
- I'm going to be speaking in New York City on April 7th for the Manhattan Adult ADD Support Group 6:15 - 9:00 pm. This talk about ADHD and marriage will be open to the public ($5 donation requested). For details go to this link.
- My next phone course for couples starts April 26th. This course is a great way to break through the impasse you face in your relationship. Information at this link.
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 03/15/2011 - 10:41
There has been a lot of talk recently about executive function issues and ADHD. What are "executive functions" and how are they related to ADHD?
Executive functions help you exhibit control over your actions so that you can get to a specific goal you wish to achieve. That can be something lofty and long-term, such as "graduate from college" or something small and immediate like "make my lunch." There are five areas of executive functioning that are impacted when you have ADHD. Some find extreme weakness in one area, such as planning, and less in another, such as verbal working memory.
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 03/03/2011 - 12:07
We got so much feedback about our new professional education course for marriage therapists - "This looks like a FABULOUS course, but I can't make it to Boston!" - that we have changed the format to be a phone seminar. I've very excited about this because it's a win/win/win/win:
- same amazing faculty (Ned Hallowell, Kevin Murphy, Sue Hallowell and me)
- same course content PLUS readings, which will make the course richer, and probably get ADDITIONAL CE CREDIT (we're finalizing that info)
- MUCH lower price (only $295 with the early registration discount)
- more convenient - no need to travel - six sessions in May and June and you can hear a recording if you miss one
I should have set it up this way in the first place - but thanks for contacting us and letting us know what you wanted! SO, if you are a professional interested in learning more about how to help couples manage ADHD issues, or if you know of a therapist whom you think would benefit from this information, please pass this great news on! For full course information, go to this link. (This is a professionals-only course, but if you are a member of a couple and want to take my couples course, the next session starts April 26th. You can find more information about that here.)
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 03/01/2011 - 16:27
Control issues create one of the most common Catch-22s of ADHD-impacted marriages. Take on what your partner isn’t doing and you are overwhelmed with what you have to do and resentful of the burden. Don’t take on what your partner isn’t doing and you are overwhelmed by what isn’t getting done and resentful your partner isn’t pitching in more. So how do you stop trying to control your partner, get his or her buy-in, and get out of this lose/lose situation? >>> Read more >>>