Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 04/17/2013 - 12:54
Excessive use of electronics is not a neutral activity when it comes to relationships – it takes time away from family and partners. In our house it can feel as if my husband’s electronics rule my life. If I ask a question or sound speculative about anything, the first thing he does is whip out his phone to look up the answer. He views it as being helpful and interesting. I view it as a distraction that pulls his attention away from me and from our conversation. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Sun, 04/07/2013 - 13:14
The basic progression in the forum here is to find it when in terrible pain, post about that pain, get lots of feedback (helpful and not), work on your relationship (sometimes for years) and resolve. One resolution is to leave your partner. Another is to stay and create a happy relationship. If you are one of the people who has repaired your relationship and sees success, consider paying everyone here back by staying a bit involved with the site and posting about your positive experiences. People here need to hear from those who are successful in their efforts - yet success and happiness lead many to stop visiting and posting. Thanks to Aspen for recently jumping in about the now happy state of her relationship...I urge others, over time, to do the same. I thank you in advance for your contributions!
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Fri, 03/08/2013 - 11:39
Are you tired of having your partner point to your ADHD as the source of your marital problems? I heard this today from a frustrated ADHD client, and it's a common refrain. Does the label actually matter? Is the ADHD the source of the issues? If you are working with a counselor (like me) who specializes in ADHD, does this put too much emphasis on ADHD? It's a legitimate concern that I would like to discuss here. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 03/05/2013 - 16:22
Being without insurance doesn't have to mean you can't make progress against ADHD. Here are some specific ideas to keep the cost of treatment as low as possible: >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Mon, 02/25/2013 - 15:02
I've just been notified that this site was named one of the top ADHD sites for 2012 by GoodTherapy.org - a site dedicated to helping people connect with a good therapist and explore whether or not therapy is right for them. I'm delighted to receive the recognition! And would like to introduce you to their site - if you are considering whether counseling might be right for you, they have lots of articles about what to look for, as well as a list of counselors who might be near you. (You can also find counselors and coaches I know about for ADHD and ADHD relationship counseling at my list of professional resources.)
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 02/20/2013 - 10:32
Zoe Kessler has posted here before and is a regular contributor to PsychCentral. She has just posted an interview with a couple in which the non-ADHD partner describes her appreciation for the ADHD essence of her partner - well worth reading! You can find Zoe's blog and this particular post here. If you have any thoughts about the positive things you see in your partner's ADHD, please feel free to add them to this entry...I, for one, recognized my husband in much of what this woman wrote.
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 02/12/2013 - 15:15
Too many couples find that Valentine’s Day is a yearly reminder of what they don’t have – the “picture perfect” marriage with both partners arriving home with red roses, a bottle of wine and sex on their minds. Like in the magazines, right?! Except that’s not how it happens for many couples, particularly if you are struggling in your relationship. So here are four tips for surviving what may be the worst Hallmark Card holiday of them all! >>> Read more >>>