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Welcome to "ADHD and Marriage"

Helping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Dr. Edward Hallowell and Melissa Orlov blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?

New Here? Is This Site Right for You? READ THIS!

You may have ADHD, or you may be married to someone with ADHD and wondering whether it may be affecting your relationship.  This site can help you learn much more BUT PLEASE READ THIS before you explore for the first time!  Let me introduce you to what’s here. >>> Read more >>>

Now, get two free chapters of The ADHD Effect on Marriage when you register for this site! (Register here)

ADHD Marriage Turn Around - From Ready to Separate to Happier than Ever

Want to know what success looks like when you've pretty much lost hope and then turn things around?  Here is a letter that came in to me this week that describes it so well that I thought I would share it.  Of particular interest, I think, is the connection between the two partners as they progress - they create an upward spiral of positively reinforcing behavior that really helps them succeed. >>> Read more >>>

What to Say Thank You for in ADHD Marriages

A writer in this forum just posted about how important it is to remember the good in our partners.  I re-post her thoughts here as well as add my own.  I encourage you all to stop and take a moment to post something in this thread that is good about your partner - ADHD or not.  Okay, so here is the post that moved me: >>> Read more >>>

Do You Have an ADHD Kid Who Self-Medicates with Pot?

Self-medication with marijuana is pretty common.  New research suggests that if that self-medication starts when you are a teen there are dire consequences for the developing brain.  Here is a write up of some recent research on the topic.

4 Tips to Encourage a Reluctant ADHD Partner to try Meds

Lots of ADHD spouses are uncomfortable with the idea of trying medication as treatment for their ADHD – and some number flatly refuse.  If you’re stuck in a battle with your partner over the importance of medication, here are four tips for you. >>> Read more >>>

When Both Spouses Have ADHD

What’s it like when both partners have ADHD in a relationship?  Is it different from when only one has ADHD?  Are there other resources we need to know about?  Are there different challenges?  These are questions I get regularly and would like to answer here. >>> Read more >>>

Do You Feel There is No Clear Path Out of Your Anger?

Are you in an ADHD relationship and feel as if there is no clear path out of your anger? Join the virtual ADHD Conference on October 2 from 2:00-3:00pm as Melissa Orlov helps you understand the underpinnings of that anger and how to calm your relationship. Listen to Melissa as she explains the program here. Register at ADHDConference

Do you have specific ADHD questions? Dr. Hallowell will participate in the Virtual ADHD Conference on Monday, October 1 from 7:00 - 8:00pm. This is a unique opportunity to get your questions answered by the leading ADHD Experts, connect with the ADHD Community, and get the latest information on living with ADHD. Register at: adhdconference. >>> Read more >>>

Sleep Disorders and ADHD

There has been some significant conversation around sleep disorders and ADHD here lately.  Research suggests that sleep disorders and ADHD can go hand-in-hand.  In fact, there is even some conversation about whether or not some people with ADHD actually suffer from Sleep Apnea, the symptoms of which are similiar to those of ADHD (hyperactivity in children, distractibility in adults).  So here is a link to a good overview of what's known about sleep disorders and ADHD, put together by CHADD.