Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Fri, 12/06/2013 - 11:53
I am happy to announce that the next book that I am publishing, along with my co-author Nancie Kohlenberger LMFT, is getting closer to completion. The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD manuscript is now at the editor, and the publication date is set for April, 2014! Where The ADHD Effect on Marriage focused on identifying the impact of ADHD on adult relationships and got couples started on the path to relationship recovery, this book helps couples respond to the emotions they encounter as they try to repair their relatio >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Sun, 12/01/2013 - 12:55
Melissa once asked her husband for his perspective as the ADHD partner on their experience turning their relationship around. At another time, she also asked him if he was glad he went through finding out about his ADHD. Both answers were very enlightening.
Turning the relationship around, in his eyes, consisted of three basic steps: >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 11/26/2013 - 13:21
Thanksgiving is a great time to reflect on what you are thankful for. This year, as I complete my second book, I am particularly aware of how grateful I am to be working with a community of people impacted by ADHD. There are so many seeking ways to love their partner more fully and working to make their lives better...truly it is a privilege. Thank you!
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 16:29
This is a guest blog post by ADHD coach Kathy Sussell about her marriage and what has helped it over 32 years.
When my husband asked if he could take me out for a fancy dinner this weekend I was more than pleasantly surprised, I was absolutely shocked because it’s not the kind of thing he does.
“Why would you want to take me out for a fancy dinner?” I asked. “Don’t you want to celebrate our 32nd anniversary?” he replied.
I thought to myself, “Miracles never cease.” Here was my husband, the love of my life, the father of my children, remembering our anniversary for the first time in 30 years and taking the initiative to plan a date. This may sound like small potatoes but my husband has ADHD and he struggles with planning, initiating, remembering and other executive functioning skills. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 10/09/2013 - 12:56
I don't often refer you elsewhere, but I have just posted a blog entry at Psychology Today entitled 50 Ways NOT to Leave Your ADHD Lover - inspired by seeing Paul Simon this summer, perhaps! It's fun as well as informative - a nice cheat sheet of ideas for all of you. I urge you to read it at this Psychology Today link.
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 10/03/2013 - 09:05
I regularly hear from successful adults with ADHD - particularly men - that though they experience success at work they worry that they still don't feel successful. In fact, they feel as if they have others 'fooled' and that some day they may be discovered as a fraud. A marriage tip reader recently wrote me to ask "what's at the root of this? I often feel this way but can't pinpoint why..." As I've talked with adults in counseling about this issue I believe it has to do with the inconsistency of ADHD. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 09/17/2013 - 11:55
Here is a link to a good article that was recently released about money management tips when you have ADHD. It provides some solid statistics about the challenges plus a solid list of good ideas to improve things. Go to this link... I would be delighted if people wanted to start a thread about money management with this post.