Getting Unstuck
One of the most common problems in couples in general and in couples where there is ADD in particular is the inability to make changes. Dr. Hallowell discusses why getting help might bring about the changes you and your partner need.
Help - My Boyfriend Has Discovered Online Poker!
It is not uncommon for people with ADHD to have trouble with addictions or near-addictions. In fact, it is so common that in Delivered from Distraction, Dr. Hallowell devotes an entire chapter to this topic and what to do about it. One of the issues here is that computer usage, and gambling, can be a form of self-medication for those with ADHD.
ADHD Meds Can Help Your Relationship – But He May Not Realize It!
Medications sure can help your relationship – as can non-medicinal treatments! But the spouse with the ADHD may not realize it – that’s where you need to give him (or her) some constructive feedback. This comment is typical of what happens:
Great Tips for Getting Going at Work with ADHD
In a blog about ADHD and marriage, it’s all too easy to “hyperfocus” on the ins and outs of relationships, without looking at some more general issues that many have with ADHD. We got this post recently from a man who is having trouble focusing at work. So, for all of you who have trouble getting going at work, here are some tips:
Her Relationship in Tatters, Husband “Unrecognizable” – She Feels as if it Was “Bait and Switch”
A woman who has been married for 3 years to a man who was diagnosed with ADD after they got married, has taken the time to write to me quite a bit about her situation. It is one that I recognize, as it closely mirrors the situation I had in the beginning of my own marriage. One of the key issues is that she and her husband had a wonderful courtship, during which he “hyperfocused” on her (though neither knew that this was the case as it was happening). Now she is desperate to feel loved and in the kind of relationship her courtship had led her to expect, but she finds her spouse unrecognizable. Not only does he not connect with her, but he dismisses her concerns about their lack of connection, leaving her frequently in tears. She is “in shock because I feel as if the person I fell in love with doesn’t exist”.
