November 2008

ADHD Marriages: Lowering Expectations vs. Improving Them

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 11/11/2008 - 22:58
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I often hear the comment that non-ADHD spouses need to lower their expectations in order to be happy in their relationships.  I would disagree.  I think that all spouses need to improve their expectations.  Let me explain my thinking, and how this might work in the real world. >>> Read more >>>

ADD Husband Asks for Help Turning Marriage Around

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Mon, 11/03/2008 - 23:47
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You know you have ADD.  Your marriage is disintegrating and you think the ADD might have something to do with it, but you can’t figure out what to do improve things.  What do you do?  This post is very long, but worth the 10 minutes you’ll need to take to get through it as it gets at the very heart of what goes wrong in many ADD relationships.  I think every couple struggling with ADD can learn important coping skills from my response to this man’s question.
The man who posted the comment that inspired this post is completely typical of the high achieving ADD man.  In spite of his business success, his story shows these classic patterns of a downwardly spiraling ADD relationship at home: >>> Read more >>>