June 2009

The Sweet and Sour of ADD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 06/24/2009 - 20:44
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Ned Hallowell likes to say that ADD is a “gift that’s hard to unwrap”.  Frankly, I’m not sure how I feel about the “gift” idea – instead I tend to think of ADD as something that can be “sweet and sour”.  When a person with ADD is in what I think of as “good alignment” (or perhaps their “sweet spot”) life can be very sweet.  But when it’s sour everything can be awful!  >>> Read more >>>

ADD & Marriage: Non-ADD Spouses Who “Give Too Much”

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Fri, 06/05/2009 - 19:58
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It seems as if a lot of non-ADD spouses at this site have been bending over backwards to accommodate their ADD spouse’s issues, often finding that doing so is exhausting and making them angry and miserable.  I would like to suggest that while negotiating how to meet somewhere in the middle is a part of all marriages, many non-ADD spouses are giving (and giving in) way too much.  Let me explain – >>> Read more >>>

Getting Chores Better Distributed through the Family

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Mon, 06/01/2009 - 16:53
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It’s awful to feel as if you are the only one who is doing chores around your household – not to mention exhausting.  It can also literally destroy a marriage.  The resentment that builds up around household chore distribution easily seeps into all areas of the relationship.  Many report here that they try to get their spouse to help out, but to no avail.  I think that this area is too important to give up on, so would propose a couple of ideas for attacking this issue. >>> Read more >>>