December 2009

One Reason ADHD Adults Don't See a "Need" to Change

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 12/29/2009 - 17:31
in

I was reviewing some research recently for the book I'm finishing up and came across an interesting bit of info that provides insight into why so many with ADHD perceive that "nothing is wrong" while their spouses see things differently. >>> Read more >>>

Overcoming Nagging

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 12/15/2009 - 18:14
in

When you're trying repeatedly to get an ADHD spouse to "respond" to your requests it's hard not to get into nagging mode.  But non-ADHD spouses need to avoid chronic nagging patterns if they are to be successful, happy partners.  This is much harder than it sounds.  It's scary to think back to your past and all of the times that you weren't nagging and things - sometimes really critical things like bill paying and picking up kids and getting jobs - didn't happen.  You suppose that if you stop nagging now, those same patterns will emerge (and you are probably right, at least short term). >>> Read more >>>

Dealing with ADD and The Holidays

Submitted by arwen on Sat, 12/05/2009 - 05:26

At our house, the holiday season has always been a special time of problems as well as joys.  The excitement of the holidays, the additional social interactions, the special demands of gift-giving and receiving, and the departure from routine all may be either especially stimulating or especially stressful -- to all of us, but especially to those in our family with ADD.  We always want to have a happy, loving, yummy holiday time.  Instead, we typically would either end up all yelling at each other, or in tears, by the time the holiday actually arrived. >>> Read more >>>

ADHD Partners - Driving Without Driving Each Other Crazy

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 12/02/2009 - 16:57
in

It is with some humor that I say that a very sensitive area of conflict for many couples is driving.  Most commonly, the conflict centers around the poor driving habits of an ADHD spouse (and why they can't/won't change them) and who is going to drive when.  There is more here than meets the eye, though, so I thought I would explore it a bit.  If you have conflicts over driving, read on! >>> Read more >>>