ADD Husband hates to be touched

Especially when I have to tell him to roll ever to stop snoring so loud.  In my case it's not a long cry, it's more like when I try to get him to roll over by nudging him, he'll be so startled and make sounds like I just hit him or something.  Sometimes he'll also make comments like "You scared me".  I just associate this as to everything how he basically reacts and behaves...so drama. 

Theres also many times that when we're argueing, that he'll come out w/the same ridiculous comment.  "I'm afraid you're going to hurt me", and I really see a serious side of him that I hardly ever get to see.  It's like he's panicked or something, and he has bolted out the door on many occassions when he has said this.  Anyone experience that one?  For someone who's used physical force on me before to indimidate me, I just trip!  What really angers me is that he'll push me sometimes so hard, that I get knocked off my feet.  Yet he won't admit that what he does is physical abuse because he never used a closed fist.  Although he's much bigger than me, and me being in a physical abusive relationship before, I've learned to stand my ground.  I never condone physical abuse, nor initiate such behavior, but when he does do this to me, I will push him back.  I'm a tough cookie, and he's seen that.  He knows of my prior abusive relationship, and I've made it specifically clear to him not to lay his hands on me...or I WILL snap!  I don't know if he does make this comment to me because he's afraid of me when I do push him back or what.  I think he expects me to cower, and submit to anything when he does do this.  Yea right!  Sometimes I thinks when he does do this, he's afraid that this time around, he's pushed me to the edge, and a side of me will come out that he's never seen before.  I don't know what he's thinking.  Hopefully this will NEVER happen again.  This last time he pushed me led to our seperation and ultimatums.   We've never gone to enough therapy sessions to talk about his childhood, but I'm just wondering if he has any other issues besides ADHD, and/or if this is associated w/it. 

He's led the most peaceful life I can imagine. No physical abuse, and he lived with his mother until he married me. I think he's just easily startled.

At his church, they all "pass the peace" every week (they all hug each other, one at a time). He said it took him a while to get used to that when he started going there.

He's also ticklish to the point of ridiculousness. I learned to exploit that for fun. Now he sort of likes it when I tickle him.

I think Melissa was right about it being related to his ADD but I'm not sure if the meds help or not.