The deeper the hurt the longer the road to healing right?

I'm very new to this whole new world of information and I'm finally able to understand my reactions and responses for all these years! I can't tell you how much reading this book has been the best and at times the worst news I've ever read. I'm not alone and I firmly believe that change is possible. Now that I've been diagnosed I can pin point all the problem areas to a "T" throughout our entire marriage...Too little too late my spouse says, as he filed for divorce in November and moved out of our house shortly after.  We have 2 young children, one of which has Autism and I'm pretty sure ADD as well. We've had financial struggles throughout our entire marriage.