dont really feel loved - he doesn't connect

First of all, thank you to all the contributors to this site and forum.  It has helped me so much to read and relate - although I haven't written until now, I've been reading for quite awhile, and it's really really helped me understand things... 

1 trait of my now ex has always felt like a part of his ADHD to me, but I'm not sure that I've heard anyone really mention it on the site, at least not too much, or in the same way. I'm wondering if anyone can relate, or, if maybe this is just him and not his ADHD.  Anyway - I just never felt loved... Maybe in the beginning, but even then I remember talking to my friends about how it was weird that he never asked ME questions. We'd talk and talk but he didn't really seem interested in getting to know me in the way someone usually does when they fall in love with you.  I just didn't feel loved. In so many ways. And, I don't think many people would have. He just wasn't even one bit effusive with his feelings - ever. Never connected with me in the way I usually have with partners. In a way he is so present in every moment - but kind of not with me somehow. It's hard to explain. He rarely ever complimented me. Just didn't say nice things. I don't know. I feel funny even writing this because maybe it sounds like it was just him (or us), and not the ADHD... But, it so felt like part of it to me when we were together. Part of how distracted he always is - how he always needs to run and run and do a million things. Disorganized, so he doesn't remember what I or we are doing or planned to do. Just such a mess with everything in his life, schedules, the physical house, always so tired because he can't sleep.... His lack of ability to connect with me in a normal way and make me feel loved feels like a part of all this to me - but, I'm not sure.  I'm sorry if I went on and on with my question or was unclear. Hard to explain and talk about.  Thank you again for all the support you've already offered me through this site and your contributions.