Help when both partners have ADHD

I am currently reading Melissa's book and finding it enlightening. I identify with many situations described there. However, both my spouse and I have ADHD, so the problems we're facing seem much more complex. Has anyone else approached this 6 step process from the same situation? Do I need a different resource, or can I adapt these methods to fit for my wife and me?

 

We're currently separated, but hoping to find our way back to each other. Any advice would be appreciated.