We seem to be having a break through...

I've made it a goal of mine the past several months to be much more self-aware when it comes to engaging my wife with any kind of expectation. I'm not saying I don't have them, but, I'm making an effort to not attach any negative emotion to them and when I share my feelings, I'm trying to do it in calm tones ONCE:) and only when I have her attention, and only when she is calm and listening....It has been very fruitful for our communications, which has always been very limited at best....

Over the past few months; I've noticed her working on being more open with me, more concerned about my feelings. I've also found out through the grape vine she has been seeking counsel from another happily married lady she trusts....And at times she has even made comments to me that show's ownership of her add and the effects it plays in her behaviors....This is Big!

Something happened that almost froze my heart this past Sunday; I would have never thought possible outside a miracle!...We were setting together with about 10 or 12 people in a small group setting, she had been uncharacteristically quiet for most of the meeting. And when the Brother who was facilitating the meeting ask if anyone had a pray request, several people spoke up with things they wanted prayer for....One of these requests came from the Gentleman setting to my left...He is a Foster parent to a 12 or 13 year old boy who is ADHD, (I'll call him Sam) ...So as he was telling us about the struggles to communicate with Sam, and when he thinks that they are making good progress, he will do things that or so disappointing and makes him feel like the progress is lost and they just end up back at the beginning....I laid my hand on his arm and consoled him; and spoke a few words that I felt was needed to encourage him....After I spoke; it got quiet...Then my wife spoke up and said "please pray for my husband; I'm his Sam".....This may not sound like much to some of you; but, I can't tell you how huge it is for us....All things are possible with God;)

Blessings my friends...

C