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ADHD & Marriage - Weekly Marriage Tip - February 8, 2013

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What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.”

- Leo Tolstoy
 

 

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Good Fights
Tolstoy didn’t know it then, but there is actually a large body of research that supports that healthy marriages rely, in part, on a couple’s ability to manage conflict.  John Gottman’s research suggests that “good fights” include soft starts and the ability to de-escalate and self-calm, for example.  Conversely, he notes that bad fights include those in which either partner gets flooded, thus becoming unable to productively interact.

If you don’t know how to fight, consider taking my seminar (I work on communication skills, among other things) or reading some of Gottman’s work.

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REGISTRATION IS NOW OPEN FOR THE LIVE COUPLES SEMINAR STARTING APRIL 9.  MORE INFORMATION HERE.

For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
If you or your spouse has ADHD, please join our forum at www.adhdmarriage.com to ask your questions and learn from others who share your issues.  In addition, you'll find in-depth essays to help you learn how to thrive in a marriage affected by ADHD.
 
Hope to hear from you there!
 
Melissa Orlov

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