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So I'm wondering who's playing a game here and why? Is it Bob Johnson of NY or the site Admin? Or out of the few people who have posted here do we have two Bob Johnson's from NY? HMMMM......
First post by Bob. States she wasn't on it before marriage. Started slightly after..........
Aderall XR?
Posted January 9th, 2008 by Robert Johnson
Good Afternoon,
My wife and I have been married for a little over a year and she is taking Adderall XR. Does anyone know of any adverse effects it might have on, over-focusing on the negative in a relationship, increasing hostility, causing "bi-polar" type symptoms (rapid mood swings) or anything like that? She was not on it before marriage, started slightly after and I swear she is a different person from when we got married.
Thank you
Bob, NY
Then we have this post, again by Bob Johnson. This time she's taking aderall and has been for long before we were married.
Anger/Confusion/Thinking related to ADHD/Medication?
Posted January 9th, 2008 by Robert Johnson
Hello,
I'm starting to lose home in my marriage. I love my wife very much and we have been married for a little over a year. She is diagnosed with ADHD and is confident in talking about it and feels she is in total control of its symptoms. She is taking Adderall and has been for long before we were married.
Everything we do ends in conflict, from household chores to planning a vacation. I know that communcation is key and I know that i'm not perfect but, we can be talking about anything, and if I use one wrong word to describe something, the entire conversation is ignored and the one word is focused on, whether it be to accuse me of changing facts, accusing her of something, taking a stab or just flat out missing the point. I know she has "hyper focus" type tendencies ... can this be associated with her condition? What can I do to make this work better? There is so much anger and unhappiness ... I have stopped talking since everything I say gets disected and used against me in some way ... I don't think she is this way on purpose ...
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Bob, NY
I came accross this site and thought, WOW and look who its associated with.
Bob, please enlighten me if you don't mind, and I was wondering why I was having such a hard time following these posts when I was replying.
If Bob won't clear it up- I hope these aren't "ice breaker" posts to get conversations started... AKA- BS. I've always tried to address this topic by being sincere and as open as I can, becasue some of the personal accounts and stories that I've seen and read over the past several years have really come close to home for me and I've always hoped my open attitude may offer the same to someone else. If Bob isn't Bob, thats really a shame. I don't mind even allowing you use this for a book and posted here for the world to see, but usually its best out on an open and level playing field.
Or maybe its just an ADD moment and I'm confused.
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Confusion over Bob
I can't answer your questions about Bob's identity, but I can tell you that all of the admin stuff that is done on the site is done by me - and I'm as straight a shooter as they come.
I have a strong belief that people need to share their experiences because a.) we can all learn from what others have gone through, b.) we all benefit from getting different perspectives on things we are thinking about and c.)it is helpful to be able to write about our experiences and just by explaining them, organize them better in our own minds.
You can count on me NEVER manipulating what is here (though I did delete one comment that consisted entirely of the symbol *, and you can count on me to eliminate spam if it ever manages to get through our registration system).
Thanks for all your contributions to the site...and fear not!
Melissa Orlov
Sorry for Confusion
I apologize for the misleading postings ... I am not trying to mis-lead or anything along those lines and I cannot thank you all enough for the kind thoughts and words.
My wife has been on Adderall XR since High School ... however for a period of time between after we met and when we got married she was not able to afford the medication and was un-medicated. Immediately following our marriage and getting back on health insurance she was able to start back on it.
I was trying to relay the fact that ... Adderall XR is something she has used for a good portion of her adult life ... with only a small lag in the middle. And she was not on it when we met and we right back on it after marriage.
I am really sorry if I mis-lead or made a problem. I hope this clears things up.
Thanks
Bob, NY