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  • lovehurtsalotwi... - 20 weeks 2 days ago

    I have been going through a lot with my DH.I love him a lot and can't do with out him.He came in to my life and really showed me a different world out here.The reality step in our lives where i have my kids,work,life.His acceptance towards this has been very difficult meaning he has been step aside from the equation of my personal conduct responsibilities home.He feels left out,abandoned,and completely ignored for this entire time we are together 3 yrs plus now..

  • Cricket - 20 weeks 3 days ago

    I have posted in a forum before and got a lot of negative replays saying I should run and not out up with him, etc. So I'm a bit hesitant of posting this. 

    the guy I am with has extremely bad ADHD. The saddest part is, that he has never been taught how to properly deal with it. He was on pills for it which were ones that also dealt with his anxiety and depression. He went off of his pills though and hasn't been as up and down since he stopped them. 

  • donhop17 - 20 weeks 6 days ago

    Hello.  I've never posted here before but I've been reading on this site and others for the last couple of years about ADD/ADHD and it's effects on marriage.  I even have the book.  My husband is undiagnosed but has several signs of ADHD.  Unorganized, speed driven, easily distracted. He said this morning that he wants a divorce.  We have been married for over 6 years.  We are a second marriage with a blended family, children ages 20-30 with four grandchildren from his children.

  • TheNonadhdwife - 20 weeks 6 days ago

     

  • lovemywife - 20 weeks 6 days ago

    I am a 59 year old man, My spouse of 15 years has ADD. I love my wife. She is intelligent, creative, hard working, has a great sense of humor and is very attractive. We met 17 years ago. She has 2 children; a 31 year old daughter who is happily married and lives with her husband in Atlanta and a 23 year old son, who also has ADD and is currently living with us.  When we married, my wife who was previously married had been divorced for about 3 years.

  • TheNonadhdwife - 20 weeks 6 days ago

    I'm a 35 year old non ADHD wife married to my 41 year old husband, for the past 15 years. We have 5 children 2-16. The past 15 years have been a nightmare. My husband was diagnosed, but refused medication. No drug or alcohol use ever on either of our parts. No cheating in my end ever. He has never been caught.

    He's a compulsive liar. Lies about everything and daily.

    Says he knows he does bad things but cant stop doing them

    he foreclosed on our home. I had NO idea until the sheriff served me papers. 

  • butterflykisses123 - 20 weeks 6 days ago

    Hi. Im in my early 20's & have been dating a girl with ADHD. At first I didnt know she had ADHD, but different tendencies kept popping up so I researched the symptoms & realized she had it. She's also since admitted to having it to me. I saw a lot of good in her & I thought a lot of people gave up on her early in life because of something she did not control, so I promised myself I would at least improve her life , even if I eventually lose interest in this relationship. 

  • Cshield9 - 21 weeks 5 hours ago

    I am a newlywed and My husband has adult ADHD, at least that's what we think since he was diagnosed as a child-- reading the book ADHD and it's effects on marriage, almost every page of that book has almost mirrored my own life. Let's just say I get a lot of anxiety reading this book. My husband has not been diagnosed with it as an adult because he has never gone to see a doctor and talk to them about it. And now that we have health insurance finally, he still is doing what he wants to do, at his own pace--meaning getting care for himself.

  • lovehurtsalotwi... - 21 weeks 17 hours ago

    The way my husband would react to certain questions i have for him really makes me wonder 'IF' he is lying,i am not a professional and i can SEE right through this man! some on here should really give me an in put after i am finish detailing this out..

    right,so we separated for a week or so,after this short separation we decided to try once more.Most here already know my situation, for the new ones i would re-write it as short as i can.

  • crossingfingers... - 21 weeks 1 day ago

    If my bf takes something I am saying as criticism, the focus turns from the issue I brought up and my feelings about it to his feelings of being criticized and telling me how wrong I am. He has a situation-specific rationalization for everything he does, but sometimes he is the first to criticize me if he thinks I am affecting his time or money. Then if my feelings disagree with his intentions or recollection of what happened, my feelings are wrong.

  • Clara - 21 weeks 1 day ago

    My (suspected) ADD husband is so eager to impress and please everyone, and can charm himself out of (or into) any situation.  But when it comes to me, it feels like he doesn't care at all.  He has no interest in anything I say, and will actually walk away from me when I am in the middle of telling him something.  He has, on occasion even walked out of the house while I was in mid-sentence.  Today he actually closed the door of the room he was in, so I could not talk to him from the next room.

  • Sowondrous - 21 weeks 2 days ago

    We had been planning to take a vacation together in the summer, but he said he wanted to wait until November so he could have more time off. November was my thirtieth birthday, so I thought that would be perfect to celebrate. In October, I told him to give me his share of the money for the vacation and after much prodding, he did. I told him if he didn’t want to go, he didn’t have to. He told me he’d give me the money after he asked for the time off.

  • Catherine10 - 21 weeks 2 days ago

    This is my first post. I'm hopeful to feel support by reaching out like this. 

  • rich1 - 21 weeks 2 days ago

    Hello friends,

    I am new to this site, so I've not yet found much in the way of the emotional impact from an ADHDer's perspective. Feel free to point me the way.

  • kalimando - 21 weeks 3 days ago

    I just found this forum and I'm reading things for the first time that sound exactly like my marriage. My husband is ADHD, very intelligent, highly successful businessman. We have one adopted daughter age 10 with some emotional issues and my husbands daughter is a jr in high school and with us half the time. We have been married 10 years. Husband is cold, distant, constantly telling to "get out of his f-ing business", defensive, etc etc etc.

  • lovingwife.frus... - 21 weeks 3 days ago

    I'm very frustrated today and seems the frustration waxes and wanes as far as I am able to keep track of everything as I am just one person.  But Im floundering, my job is not 100% my home is not given 100% and my kids dont always get it because Im doing EVERYTHING ELSE!

     

    Background:

    Me: Type A personality, driven, fairly successful.   Committed Christian.

    Went from full time to part time (well70%) when #2 was born because I wanted more time with kids but also because I COULD BOT handle home and ds working full time. largely due to DH

  • lovehurtsalotwi... - 21 weeks 4 days ago

    After finding the guts to finally end things with my spouse i feel the same way even after the separation.The loneliness is the same there is no different feeling where i thought that i would feel extra lonely.For the 3 years of struggling with the marriage i resorted in ending the abuse finally.

  • comingtotermswithit - 21 weeks 4 days ago

    Today, for the first time I am publicly facing what I have suspected for years.  We just celebrated out 9th anniversary but I feel like my heart has gone to sleep.

    I am a Non-ADHD spouse.  My story is long and my need for support great.  We made a doctor's appointment a couple of years ago to talk about the possibility

    of my spouse having some type of ADHD. ( I had done some research on ADHD and come to understand that perhaps I was not going crazy and the doctor

  • lovehurtsalotwi... - 21 weeks 5 days ago

    Love is something that i have never felt for a long time while being in this relationship with my Ex.I can't remember when was the last time he looked at me with those loving eyes and said i love you hun!.Today i love him and probably will for a while until i meet someone else.He tore me to pieces,he ruined my every Skye ability to trust another man again.I was, we was very much in love at first and it was the most amazing feeling of my life.After a few weeks or so things started getting very comfy for him and he started dominating me,controlling me,telling me who to talk to, who to be

  • Pix2clix - 21 weeks 6 days ago

    I keep saying this is it – the last straw – I cannot keep doing this – when will she ever “get it”. I know in my heart it may be never, but my “it” is different than her “it”. Our son is 5 years old next month and I have been his primary caregiver since he was 2 (we still all live together, but she does nothing to assist concerning parenting). I read where it stated to not “exaggerate – or whatever”, but I am completely serious.