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I feel like I'm on here every other day with some new horrible development, but my adhd partner just shoved me hard out of our bathroom.  The door was open and he was in there getting ready to take a shower.  I had cut my finger so I walked in to get something to put on it and I've been in the bathroom when he's in there all the time so you can imagine my shock when he started yelling at me to get out.  I was so stunned actually that I guess I didn't move fast enough for him because he then proceeded to shove me out the door physically!  I am in such a st

My sweet husband has ADHD and I am finally realizing how much I don’t know about it and NEED to know about it. I love him very much and want to be supportive and I'm 100% for our marriage... So I’m studying everything like a hawk, especially Melissa’s book.

So,I decided that after the holidays it would be a new start for me where I would find my sanity and end my marriage.Wrong! I am soo mad right now because even if I want to walk away right now it's just so hard for me and I am so overwhelmed by all this drama.The breaking of the new year was my turning point to move on with my life and start over fresh and find back my happiness that was taken from me two plus years now.

I'm starting to suspect, although I could be entirely wrong here, that my partner might have Oppositional Defiant Disorder issues to the extreme.  I always assumed that the reason he always seemed to behave the opposite of how I needed him to was because we were just a bad fit and that his ADHD caused him to be very self-focused so my needs were ignored.  I even mentioned in one post how it seemed that our basic needs always seemed to be in direct conflict so that one of us (actually just me every time) would have to jeopardize something intrinsically important to them to allo

Well I will start off by saying I don't have a specific question rather sharing my own experience and insight if for no other reason then I feel the need to journal :)

So bit of history:

• Have been diagnosed with ADHD, Asperger and Dysthymia
• Currently separated from spouse but we're dating again and that's been fantastic
• Attending regular counseling
• Was taking Pristiq and Strattera

So the story begins:

First, let me say I don't really know why I'm posting this other than the fact that I feel the need to write this down somewhere where people might understand. Feel free to ignore!

Hello everyone,
IF YOU'RE NOT WILLING TO READ THIS AT LEAST RECOMMEND PEOPLE WHO WOULD, OR SITES.

First off, let me say that I'm SO glad to find this site! My husband just keeps telling me that I'm the nagging, crazy wife. It's nice to know that I'm experiencing the same emotions many of you are. My quick story- I've been with my husband for almost 7 years, married for almost 4. When I met him, he was newly divorced with 2 children (whom he shares 50/50 custody with). Together, him and I have a daughter and son. Depression, anxiety and substance abuse runs in his family.

I never thought that i would be at this junction that i am today. I was diagnosed with severe ADHD back in 8th grade and was on rydelan (spelling?) till sophomore yr. At that time i stopped taking it because i felt like a total zombie and that wasn't me back then. Im 24 now, been married a 1 1/2 and been with my wife 2 1/2 yrs total. i always knew i never really grew out of the ADHD like the doctors said i would..... but i never thought it was as bad as it is now. i did make an appt with the dr and it is at the end of this week.

So like most here, I need to communicate things to my husband that he just can not hear or process. Like most here he gets defensive, angry, interrupts me and eventually manipulates the whole conversation to go in a direction that better suits him. Like some here I have cried til my eyes hurt, screamed til my throat bleeds, I have lost patches of hair due to stress and now suffer from anxiety.....all in an effort to simply be heard, acknowledged and understood.

Having more and more time to think, I'm increasingly seeing how unbalanced my marriage was.  I was giving much more than I was getting in pretty much all areas: emotionally, financially, taking care of responsibilities, household duties, etc.  When I was talking to my friends about how much I love my husband despite all that he's done (or hasn't done), and how I don't mind supporting him financially and doing more than my fair share (which I didn't...

Not sure where to start...My road has been a rough and rocky one. I feel as if I have hit a dead end. I have been married to my husband for almost 12 years now. We married when I was 21 and he was 22. He was diagnosed with ADHD when her was 22 but it was never treated. My marriage consist of verbal, emotional, and a few times physical abuse. Just purchased Melissa's book in the hopes of making sense of all of this. I am so exhausted...depressed and just downright fed up of being the only one putting effort into this relationship.

Hi

I am an ADHD spouse and am working through the ADHD book.

Need to vent and bring up a topic, and wonder if anyone else might be dealing with a similar issue.

My ADHD spouse has been deeply involved in a war-based role playing game on the Iphone and Ipad for the past six months.
He has had game addiction issues in the past, at a desktop computer, and stopped cold turkey a few years ago.

Does anyone else struggle with this?  It's rarely talked about but I feel like it probably happens to other non-ers.  I suppose it's not a priority on the list of concerns as there are even worse things that need to be addressed and so doesn't get talked about often.  But does coping with your partner's ADHD ever end up making it appear like you're crazy, unreasonable, moody, neurotic,  etc.  to the public at large including friends and family?  Those suffering with ADHD often have had a lifetime to develop coping mechanisms to help them mas

I was trying to explain this to a friend.  My husband has decided he wants to leave, and since i've been pretty miserable with him lately, I didn't oppose to the idea.  But still I still have thoughts about getting back together with him, still trying to mend things, still trying to work it out.  My friend thinks I'm nuts.  Ok, nuts isn't the right word, but he couldn't understand why I would want to go back when I've been so miserable.

The link below should be required reading for EVERYONE.  They should teach these things in school.  Love is not hyperfocus that fades.  Love is caring and nurturing and maintaining and being able to commit and embody trust.  The best equation for a good and happy marriage is to marry the right person.  How can you tell who is the right person for you?  I am embarrassed that I did not know these things when I was younger.  My young heart saw too many romance movies.   I guess I mistook all these things for love.

I am new here and stumbled across this site while searching for answers or help for my failing marriage, it seems that my story is quite similar to some here so I figured reaching out is worth a shot, I have nothing to lose! I am sorry in advance if this is long but being new here, I have a story to tell.

Well, that was another crappy night of covering up your feet with the blanket so they don't get cold, then having you roll over taking all the comfort with you and leaving me totally exposed. 

What a petty thing for me to say. Sounds bad coming out of my fingers. That's why I'm saying it here, where someone might get what I mean. 

Well, our relationship just reached a new low this evening although I'm sure it won't be the last. 

Every year, right after the holidays, my husband gets the itch to leave.  The holidays are a stressful time for a lot of people, and between all the family obligations, spending money on gifts, and having vacation time but not being able to do anything because of said family obligations and no money leftover for a trip, I can tell he once again feels bored in the relationship and puts the blame squarely on me.