Joy in Marriages with ADHD

Light-hearted humor postings by the people with the ADHD.

I'm in love with a man with ADHD. i have had a lot of downs because of it but as hard as it is i don't want to leave are relationship but don't know how to help him and stop my self from stressing at him. If anyone could help me or have any tips i would be very happy

thank you

Hello all,

Though i know this is a very subjective question, but all those couples who have had a happy relationship, what are the qualities you think would work well with someone with typical ADHD characteristics. I am going for an arrange marriage & was curious what qualities would come at the top of your head - is "Opposites Attract" especially true in case of one spouse having ADHD? or does the ADHD spouse feels things might get dull and looks for someone more like themselves. >>> Read more >>>

I'm writing out of utter shame and despair. I, like us all, have a long story so I'll try my best to keep it brief. It's also hastily written.

I'm 30ish, living with ADHD(on Meds, Adderall), Learning Disability, panic disorder and PTSD from childhood sexual abuse. >>> Read more >>>

I am a 42 year old man with ADHD who is married to his polar opposite- a brilliant, multi-tasking goddess, who can use a defibrillator on a patient in cardiac arrest with one hand, do an emergency traych with the other hand, and bark out orders to the rest of the ER as they receive trauma patients from a seven car pile up in the middle of winter, all while calling me at home to remind me to send in the mortgage payment, and to remind our four children that she loves them, and not to forget to do their homework. >>> Read more >>>

I've noted a wide variety of posts on this website expressing frustration with sexual intimacy when one partner has ADD.  Most of these seem to fall into two categories.  1) The ADD spouse is so easily distracted that you can't get them to begin sexual intimacy and/or stay engaged after they begin,  2) The ADD spouse (always male in this situation, as far as I've noticed) is such a novelty junkie that he spends a tremendous amount of time on pornography, leaving his wife sexually frustrated, humiliated, and/or disgusted. >>> Read more >>>

I have been with my ADHD spouse 22 years (since I was 18).  I had emotional and physical abuse issues from childhood.  When we dated 5 years he seemed very safe, happy, and successful.  His family seemed like a very quirky, happy family.  Although there was divorce, affairs, gambling, drinking, and job loss in his immediate family.  My husband now was overwhelmingly attentive, which I saw as love.  However, I did get "gut feelings" that something wasn't right.  He was extremely involved in sports and we stopped everything for games. >>> Read more >>>