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  1. fear of the future

    partner there is so much more to this.... I am so happy that I found this website. I dont want to leave my ... husband, but I know that I cannot be in a marriage like this forever. I just cant, none of my needs are ... being met. Please help me:( ...

    VaPA - 11/16/2016 - 00:53 - 13 comments

  2. Are You Interested?

    disconnected from your partner and can’t seem to bridge the gap between you because one or both of you has put ... I encounter when working with couples is when one or both partners has ‘checked out’ of their relationship, ... both partners.  You are connected by contract, but not by positive emotion. I’ve been in this place.  ...

    cveal - 12/10/2014 - 14:19

  3. Touch When Words Won’t Come

    partner, James, in an email Touch When Words Won’t Come "So, I just wanted to tell you I read your ... tips every week. I’m a non ADHD husband. I love my wife. She has the best heart ever. This Aug will be ... 30yrs of marriage. I have my faults. I have recently become aware of just how much ADHD has impaired my ...

    cveal - 09/26/2021 - 03:41

  4. unreliable

    I am adjusting to meet all his adhd needs, what happens to my needs? Who am I supposed to rely on? ... meet. Who is looking out for me? who is going to give me the support i need?  Please help:(  ... Submitted by VaPA on 11/18/2016. Support for the ADHD Partner How is  it possible to be married to ...

    VaPA - 11/19/2016 - 03:44 - 15 comments

  5. Audiobook- The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD

    Chapter 3 (cont.) Hot Spot 7: My Partner Acts As If I’m Broken (pp. 92- 94) Track 10: Chapter 4 – Can’t ... of Love  (pp. 191 – 192) Track 24: Chapter 7: (cont.) Hot Spot 19: Can’t Trust My Partner (pp. 193 ... Seems to Change (pp. 103 – 107) Track 13: Chapter 4 (cont.) Hot Spot 10: My Partner Ignores My ...

    cveal - 10/09/2017 - 17:09

  6. Support groups/forums for the adhd perspective?

    please don't bash my request; it's just my personal observations and a sincere question. ... Submitted by fuzzylogic72 on 10/25/2010. Support for the ADHD Partner Hi, I am new here and was ... kind of positive content from/for the adhd person's side. For example, the majority of these ...

    fuzzylogic72 - 10/25/2010 - 12:19 - 48 comments

  7. Register for Fall ADHD&Marriage Support

    I have several offerings coming up that might be of interest: For non-ADHD partners:   My non-ADHD ... please check out the dates immediately if you are interested. For ADHD partners:   Cam Gott's  ... other's progress, and Cam helping identify key issues. For both partners together or either partner ...

    MelissaOrlov - 08/24/2021 - 11:24

  8. My husband doesn't think he needs a driver's license.

    across the street so it works for now but i cant stand to live here the rest of my life and he has stated ... doesnt grasp if we do that he has to be able to drive. I feel like i cant rely on him... any thoughts?  ... to stumble on this site, ive been stressed about my relationship with my husband, and after reading ...

    Bre.bre - 11/06/2015 - 08:55 - 4 comments

  9. I have the same issues with my ADHD husband..... but really need some hope

    Submitted by cant-talk-to-fr... on 05/11/2017. Anger, Frustration & ADHD Hello All, I am ... a long-time reader of this site and forum. And so many posts are similar to my struggles with my untreated ... cant' get it together in some ways. The other day he couldn't afford groceries for our kids lunch. ...

    cant-talk-to-fr... - 05/11/2017 - 10:22 - 3 comments

  10. ADHD Couples Seminar- register now! Next seminar not until Fall

    your resolutions for 2024 was to improve your relationship with your partner, please consider ... seminar, please feel free to contact me.  Otherwise, you can register here. I look forward to helping you ... Hello- you've expressed an interest in my couples seminar and I want to make sure you know ...

    MelissaOrlov - 01/29/2024 - 12:41

  11. My adhd and my wife’s anger and treatment

    For her it’s about the bigger picture – what other details are you not managing? I can’t rely on you ... end of my rope. I can’t take it anymore. I read the Orlov book and it’s us. But she won’t engage with ... to do. Our relationship has devolved into just awful. My wife has thrown things at me, pushed me, ...

    AlleyOop23 - 07/31/2023 - 10:54 - 29 comments

  12. BE Different

    not just for getting caught. Or they could take the advice of my middle school principal: Don’t be ... partner’s trust.   Or, perhaps the thing you want to change is smaller. That’s okay, too. Just remember that ... your spouse has ADHD, please join our forum at www.adhdmarriage.com to ask your questions and learn ...

    cveal - 02/01/2012 - 16:26

  13. The Keys to Happiness

    couples impacted by ADHD, but do you rely on your partner to make you happy?  If so, that’s a dangerous ... proposition! So what do you do if your ADHD partner’s inconsistency makes you really UN-happy?  Here are some ... specific tips: Constructively express what you want and need from your partner in positive terms.  Be ...

    cveal - 02/14/2013 - 13:41

  14. Newbie. Where to from here?

    feature on his mental list. I rely a lot on my mom to help which upsets me. I have a husband who could ... i have had to juggle getting kids to school and me to work, relying every day on my mom for help. I have ... Submitted by Taurus on 10/08/2020. Support for the ADHD Partner My husband and I have been married ...

    Taurus - 10/08/2020 - 16:02 - 1 comment

  15. Donald Trump is a Narcissist. Your Partner with ADHD Probably is Not

    head, helping their partners feel less left out (for more on this, see my course on Recovering Intimacy) ... What Is It, Then?  My Partner Seems to Pay Attention Mostly to Himself It is fair to say that many with ... my daughter was younger, for example, she could play very contentedly for hours and hours by herself ...

    MelissaOrlov - 11/30/2022 - 14:52 - 16 comments

  16. The Care and Feeding of a Non-ADD Spouse

    but can’t figure out a more effective way to get your attention:   People with ADD are content to be ... Favorite Posts Communication Tips with ADHD I spend a lot of time helping non-ADD spouses understand how to ... like this, and I sure don’t!  Help me stop this pattern by setting up a cue that we agree upon.  When ...

    MelissaOrlov - 06/30/2019 - 21:14 - 101 comments

  17. i cant take it!!!

    things he says my son is and more, why cant he see it unless i point it out? Which i always do! I throw ... less than an hour later he does it again, over and over. I cant take it! My son has serious self esteem ... for this website and for all of you out there struggling with an add/ADHD SPOUSE. i cant say how much ...

    janet0039 - 09/07/2011 - 22:04 - 4 comments

  18. I have no motivation anymore. Any advice is welcome.

    remember such a key moment in your life right?  Am I wrong?  He cant name my favorite color, he cant ... Submitted by SpaceyStacey197... on 06/11/2014. Anger, Frustration & ADHD My husband and I had ... http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/trying-something-different-one-last-... Basically, since we made the deal about him moving out - so many things happened.  Friends of ours ...

    SpaceyStacey197... - 07/03/2016 - 03:30 - 9 comments

  19. Good Fights

    it then, but there is actually a large body of research that supports that healthy marriages rely, in ... bad fights include those in which either partner gets flooded, thus becoming unable to productively ... interact. If you don’t know how to fight, consider taking my seminar (I work on communication skills, among ...

    cveal - 02/08/2013 - 12:36

  20. I destroy myself because my husband has ADHD

    Submitted by dalanak on 08/15/2022. Anger, Frustration & ADHD HelpMy ADHD husband makes me ... rely on him- he makes mistakes almost everywhere, he makes impulsive purchases, he interrupts, he does ... illogical things, I can’t calmly leave him with a child.  From a recent: the child slept in a stroller ...

    dalanak - 08/23/2022 - 19:56 - 7 comments

  21. Are You a Victim of ADHD?

    ADHD-impacted partner won’t or can’t, for example (not true, btw, but an understandable assumption.) I’ve also ... talked with plenty of ADHD partners who suggest they are victims of ADHD and ‘can’t do anything about ... impacted by ADHD. I’ve talked with many non-ADHD partners who think they are victims of their partner ...

    cveal - 09/26/2021 - 03:41

  22. IDEAS that WORK!? (POSITIVE THREADS ONLY PLEASE)

    from both the ADHD partner and the nonADHD partners to post ideas/strategies that they have tried, and ... might be better if the poster first says if they are the adhd partner (adhd+), or the non adhd partner ... someone tried and got good results from, and you have tried it with negative results, please don't ...

    fuzzylogic72 - 10/29/2010 - 14:06 - 14 comments

  23. Defensiveness

    partner rather than self-reflect in a way that could help you both.  Repeated defensiveness encourages ... your partner to stop engaging with you.  And you can’t love someone if you can’t engage with them ... partners.  You can’t examine the issue at hand and resolve it because you aren’t on the same team. Thinking ...

    cveal - 09/26/2021 - 03:41

  24. Could ADD Trigger or Cause COMORBID NARCISSISM?

    repeat any of it: http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/lowering-my ... -own-standards-accomodate... http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/add-and-selfishness My Ex-SO has certainly some serious traits that are typical for ADD, and also some of ... I was coping with the failure of my relationship.   I told my experience in two threads, so I will not ...

    at_the_crossroa... - 06/20/2010 - 13:20 - 102 comments

  25. How to Grieve for the Relationship You Didn't Get

    and choices he had made, too. I came to a conclusion that helped me greatly as I moved through my ... partner’s actions and forgive them, then I could put my sadness into context and move ahead.  Yes, we had ... information and wisdom I’ve gained to (along with my husband) to grab life and create joy – not relying on far ...

    MelissaOrlov - 02/01/2019 - 18:43 - 51 comments

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