Anger is not necessarily ‘bad’ – we all get angry sometimes, and when there is intermittent, healthy anger in a relationship it’s just a signal that something specific needs attending to. But many ADHD relationships are marred by both chronic and episodic bursts of anger and rage that are painful to partners and damaging to their connections. While some of this anger is physiological and related to ADHD impulsivity, most of it has other origins.
This 9-week tele-seminar will help couples delve deeply into strategies known to help couples impacted by ADHD lessen the anger in their relationship. It is a working course, with emphasis on skill-building and implementation.
You’ll learn about:
- Healthy vs. unhealthy anger
- ADHD and anger
- Treatments that help reduce anger
- Patterns that lead to anger
- Your anger style and anger paradigm
- Emotional self-regulation
- The role of forgiveness in addressing anger
- Strategies and tools that help lessen anger
- Improving your communication techniques around difficult topics
- Conflict Intimacy skill building
Agenda and dates:
This seminar will be given live in September/October of 2018 and Q1 of 2019 The sessions are:
Session 0: Pre-seminar review of important topics from ADHD Effect seminar related to anger: Sources of anger; unproductive responses; ADHD treatment and anger
Session 1: Healthy v. unhealthy anger; Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria and anger; developing greater autonomy
Session 2: Blame to resentment to hate; forgiveness in-depth
Session 3: Identifying and understanding your specific anger style; power sharing case studies; lessening the number of fights you have
Session 4: Conflict intimacy in-depth; lessening aggression and defensiveness
Session 5: 5 important tools to lessen anger; optional refresher on tools from ADHD Effect seminar
Session 6: Anger paradigms - what's yours, and how do you improve it?
Session 7: Dedicated Q&A session: An hour of open Q&A for class participants with Melissa Orlov
Session 8: Developing the art of curiosity; wrestling with feeling powerless
Session 9: Creating your anger plan; what do you do next?
Dates for the September seminar will be set over the summer.
Melissa Orlov is the author of two award-winning books on the topic of ADHD and relationships, and is dedicated to helping couples impacted by ADHD learn how to thrive. She is a popular instructor, giving talks and seminars for couples and therapists around the world. She developed this course on anger in response to an obvious need expressed by couples who were making progress, but 'stuck' in anger patterns.
Melissa is one of the foremost authorities on ADHD in couples, and is known for her practical approach - providing both insight from her many years of experience and specific strategies that work. In her exceptional ADHD Effect In-Depth seminar she has surprised many couples who had lost hope...but then learned specific skills they needed to improve their lives together.
At this site you can find many resources developed by Melissa and her team and she hopes you will explore. If you want more details about Melissa, go to the About page.
Who should take this seminar?
Though not required, it is very highly recommended that couples complete The ADHD Effect on Marriage In-Depth before taking How to Diminish Anger in Your Relationship so that you have a full understanding of the dynamics of ADHD-impacted relationships. This will allow you to focus on anger interactions with a solid knowledge about the underpinnings of the challenges you face.
Both partners should take this seminar:
- ‘mixed’ couples – one partner with and one partner without ADHD
- dual-ADHD couples
- therapists and counselors
Pricing & refund policy
$295 per couple includes:
- 8 sessions of 70 minutes each, mixing lecture and discussion, given by conference call
- 1 additional session dedicated completely to Q&A with Melissa Orlov
- 1 pre-seminar recorded review of basics from the ADHD Effect In-Depth seminar
- homework and some readings*
- presentation materials (sent out ahead of calls)
- all course materials, including lecture recordings, are yours to keep
Full, 100% refunds are offered up to the third session
*There are two textbooks for this course: The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD by Melissa Orlov & Nancie Kohlenberger, and Letting Go of Anger by Ronald and Patricia Potter-Efron. These are not included in the price of the seminar. The calling number is not toll-free, though can be connected to by computer by most.
Logistics: How the seminar works
Sessions are given by conference call, which can be accessed by phone or computer, anywhere in the world (different locations for each of you is fine)
All sessions are given live starting at 8:30pm eastern (New York, U.S.) time, ending at or before 9:45pm
For those overseas or with conflicts – it’s easy to take the seminar by only listening to the recordings and submitting your questions via email. You will miss participating in some of the in-class discussion
International couples and those with conflicts
Couples who live in a time zone that does not mesh well with the 8:30pm eastern (New York) start time of the live calls can still register for this course. You will be provided with recordings of each live session the day after it occurs. Unlike in the ADHD Effect In-Depth seminar, there will be in-class discussion that you will hear but not be able to participate in, since you aren't connected live.
(The class is limited to 35 couples. If you wish to be notified when September/October dates are posted, please contact Melissa)
Registration is now OPEN for the September/October session.