ADHD and Marriage Blog

Traversing the territory of helping a partner with ADHD find the best treatment for ADHD can be like walking across a minefield.  There is a great deal of danger, and you’re never quite sure where it will come from.  Here are some tips that can help make the process easier:

"Of all the activities on the internet, porn has the most potential to become addictive," reports Gary Wilson, quoting a Dutch Study on the topic.  And, do you know why it's so hard to do research on internet porn use?  Because it's use is so common they can't find adult males who haven't been exposed to internet porn!  But the downside potential of addiction is very real, and it (like so many other things) has to do with brain chemistry and (you guessed it) dopamine and the brain's reward system  Wilson does a good job of providing the details in this TedX Talk.  My thanks to Nancie Kohlenberger for sending it to my attention.

If you want more on porn, go to this very popular post - 9 Reasons Why Porn Hurts.

“It is not me nor my spouse that is broken.  It is the relationship that is broken.”  These wise words were posted in the forum not too long ago.  A breath of fresh air and some great perspective – so much clearer than blaming your partner!

Chances are, you’ve heard that tone of voice.  The one that sounds demeaning to you…aggressive…just short of an insult and a put down…the tone that puts your teeth on edge.

Chances are also good that you’ve not only heard it, but used it yourself…and your partner hates it.

What happens when you are your partner reach an impasse about how to move forward in your relationship?  I got email today from a woman who wrote about how she and her husband are ‘stuck.’  She wants to work on repair, while he expects her to ‘act like nothing has happened in the last five years and move on’…including have sex together.

You have an opportunity to be involved in research that will help counselors understand how better to help couples impacted by adult ADHD in a really important arena - sex.

Statistics about how many couples are impacted by one or more emotional or physical affairs are hard to believe, for obvious reasons, not least of which is that estimates vary so widely.  They range from 20-60% of men and 20-40% of women having an affair at some point in their relationship.  No matter the exact number, the bottom line is that a large number of couples experience this form of betrayal at some point in their partnership, often after that affair has been going on for a while. 

Tired of doing the same thing each year?  Try these slight spins on old themes!

Staying organized enough to take care of parents and family members can add a lot of pressure to your life.  One woman with ADD recently reached out for advice:

Looking to have a happier year in 2015?  Why not pick one of these eight resolutions that can help couples impacted by ADHD turn their lives in a happier, healthier direction this year?

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