Statistics about how many couples are impacted by one or more emotional or physical affairs are hard to believe, for obvious reasons, not least of which is that estimates vary so widely. They range from 20-60% of men and 20-40% of women having an affair at some point in their relationship. No matter the exact number, the bottom line is that a large number of couples experience this form of betrayal at some point in their partnership, often after that affair has been going on for a while.
Repeated research studies suggest that gratitude can lead us to healthier lives and actually help 'rewire' our brains for greater happiness. But struggling couples may not be feeling very grateful. Here are some tips about how to find gratitude in your own life and what it can do for your relationship.
Adult ADHD can add a good deal of complexity to your interactions. Often there is strife, anger and poor behavior all the way around. Learning the art of forgiveness can really help you move in a positive direction, but to wield this powerful tool you need to bust some common myths about forgiveness, and understand what a path to forgiveness looks like.
Your mindset can make all the difference when you are in a relationship with an ADHD partner.
I want to share a note from the spouse of an ADHD partner who, after discovering ADHD was a factor in his crumbling marriage, decided to try to be more open to his wife's 'way of being' and experiences. I was moved by the shift in his attitude:
A recent article at theAtlantic.com reviews some of the research on exercise as a treatment for ADHD. The studies mentioned were done with children, as most ADHD research is, but the evidence is strong that exercise is also an effective treatment for adult ADHD. I encourage you to read up on this topic, as well as watch John Ratey's 2012 TED talk on the subject of how exercise helps your brain. If you weren't inspired to get moving before, you will be now!