Communication Tips with ADHD
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 10/03/2013 - 09:05
I regularly hear from successful adults with ADHD - particularly men - that though they experience success at work they worry that they still don't feel successful. In fact, they feel as if they have others 'fooled' and that some day they may be discovered as a fraud. A marriage tip reader recently wrote me to ask "what's at the root of this? I often feel this way but can't pinpoint why..." As I've talked with adults in counseling about this issue I believe it has to do with the inconsistency of ADHD. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Mon, 07/29/2013 - 17:21
Do you fight over whether or not you agreed to something in the past? Or perhaps you're a non-ADHD partner frustrated that your ADHD partner doesn't seem to remember your conversations? If so, I would like to suggest a simple solution that will help you avoid these fights. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 07/04/2013 - 21:37
For those of you who have learned new tools and had been doing better but are frustrated that things have gotten worse again, you are not alone! I am embarrassed to say that even in my own relationship it took a recent shocker of a conversation to get us back on track again. I write about it here because I think many of you will find the story and its outcome reassuring. Couples have setbacks, even those who have learned new techniques for finding happiness in their relationship. But don't despair because you can get past the setbacks, just as you did the origina >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 04/17/2013 - 12:54
Excessive use of electronics is not a neutral activity when it comes to relationships – it takes time away from family and partners. In our house it can feel as if my husband’s electronics rule my life. If I ask a question or sound speculative about anything, the first thing he does is whip out his phone to look up the answer. He views it as being helpful and interesting. I view it as a distraction that pulls his attention away from me and from our conversation. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 01/15/2013 - 10:54
This guest blog post has been provided by Hal Meyer and Susan Lasky of the ADD Resource Center.
You fell in love with his boyish enthusiasm, adventuresome spirit and easy-going charm. Now you are frustrated that he decides to go skiing instead of shoveling the snow off the walkway, or forgets to take the children to the dentist. You were fascinated by her many interests, creativity and “enjoy the moment” approach to life. Now you are fed up with the clutter of her incomplete projects, and annoyed by her indifference to planning meals and shopping. It is easier to love someone with ADHD than it is to live with them. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 07/04/2012 - 11:47
Dr. Ned Hallowell has just written a terrific piece on what it's like to have ADHD for the Huffington Post. You can just feel that ADHD energy in his writing! To read it, go to this link.
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 02/14/2012 - 14:36
“I think my partner has ADHD – he shows all the classic symptoms. How do I approach him with this without making him angry?” This is a great question and I applaud any spouse who is sensitive enough to be asking it. Some specific ideas and hints follow. >>> Read more >>>