Resources

Married to Distraction: Restoring Intimacy and Strengthening Your Marriage in an Age of Distraction, by Ned and Sue Hallowell, with Melissa Orlov, is being released on March 16th.  It's available for pre-order right now, and one of Dr. Hallowell's assistants put together a Valentine you can print out if you wish to order a copy for your Valentine to him or her know you were thinking about them.  It's a terrific book (I've read the whole thing) which got a starred review in Publisher's Weekly.  Here's a good description from Random House: >>> Read more >>>

I'm editing the section of my book that has to do with developing empathy for your spouse.  I found many descriptions on this site about what it feels like to be the ADHD spouse, but have had less luck finding good quotes about the feelings that come with being the non-ADHD spouse.  There's lots of "this is what my life is like" and comments about how people do/don't get along with their spouses, but less about their dreams/feelings etc.  If you would like to write a paragraph or two about that below I would love to read it, as would the other readers at the site, I expect.  Thanks. >>> Read more >>>

We have started a new area of the site, called "guest blogs" which can be found in the tabs at the top.  There are some reader voices here that have been particularly helpful over time and we would like new people to be able to find them easily.  Our first guest blogger has gone by the name of Arwen and many of you are familiar with her.  I will also move some other guest blog entries (Ari Tuckerman and others) to that area as I find time.  Enjoy!

The terrific film ADD & Loving It was aired in Canada and briefly available on the web – enough people clamored to see it that it’s been reposted by Global TV at this link.  It’s unclear how long it will be available, so I urge you all to go watch it sooner rather than later (it’s 42 minutes long).  The program is fast-paced, fun and easy to watch (the host, Patrick McKenna, is a comedian, after all!), but it’s also very informative and well produced >>> Read more >>>

After years of writing about how ADHD affects relationships I am finally offering counsel for couples who want to apply my expertise to their marriage or relationship.  Your situation can feel overwhelming and you are seeking help, but many of you say it’s hard to find someone who truly understands the complex dynamics of the ADHD-affected relationship. >>> Read more >>>

Our research about how ADHD affects marriage also illuminates the specific ways in which non-ADD spouses are frustrated in their relationships.  The responders in this section are, once again, non-ADD spouses who have officially diagnosed ADD partners.  The themes these people write about are incredibly common.  If you are an ADD spouse and you hear your non-ADD spouse comment on these traits you should assume that they are being truthful – these REALLY ARE problems in your relationship – not a figment of your spouse’s imagination.  The question as >>> Read more >>>

Ari Tuckman, author of the recently released "More Attention, Less Deficit:  Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD" has generously written a blog post for this site about some of his take on ADHD and marriage.  I include the post below: >>> Read more >>>

If you want to hear what Dr Phil and Dr Hallowell have to say about ADHD and marriage, as well as find out about some couples who are struggling with it, you can go to this page at the Dr. Phil website which recaps the July 9th show on saving marriages hurt by ADHD symptoms.

Welcome to the viewers from the Dr Phil Show, as well as other newcomers to this site.  There is a lot here, so we suggest you start with the blog posts.  Some of the "favorites" are under "Melissa's Favorite Posts" in the top right corner, or you can explore by area of concern in the "categories" area.  The site also has a forum where people with concerns share them.  Many find it reassuring that others share their issues but please understand that the forum is biased by the fact that those who have found this (unadvertised) site often seek it out because their marriage is in deep trouble.  Not all ADHD marriages are in trouble! >>> Read more >>>

Tara McGillicuddy is an active ADHD coach and educator.  Her online work, in particular, has brought coaching to a much larger audience of people who might benefit from it.  I asked her to put together an overview of ADHD coaching to post here. >>> Read more >>>