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Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Sun, 03/02/2014 - 11:06
A long time friend just sent me this Pharrell Williams Happy video to cheer me up. Loved it! Why not take a few minutes to bring a smile to your face (and bop around the room a bit)?
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 04/23/2013 - 10:28
A woman wrote me recently explaining that her ADHD husband had announced that he didn't love her, and possibly never had. She is in the middle of a much-needed reset of her own non-ADHD behaviors - anger, belittling and the like, saying that reading my book made her reassess her own behaviors and that she was actively trying to improve herself with therapy and other hard work. They have children, and she asks the very important question of "how do I get him to give us another chance?" >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Sun, 11/04/2012 - 22:23
Want to know what success looks like when you've pretty much lost hope and then turn things around? Here is a letter that came in to me this week that describes it so well that I thought I would share it. Of particular interest, I think, is the connection between the two partners as they progress - they create an upward spiral of positively reinforcing behavior that really helps them succeed. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 10/03/2012 - 11:11
What’s it like when both partners have ADHD in a relationship? Is it different from when only one has ADHD? Are there other resources we need to know about? Are there different challenges? These are questions I get regularly and would like to answer here. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Mon, 04/30/2012 - 10:14
(by Zoe Kessler - see bio at end. This post is a "must read" for anyone dealing with an angry ADHD spouse!) I was diagnosed with ADHD at 46. After my diagnosis, I had a long talk with my sister (who does not have ADHD). One of the most startling things she told me was when we were kids, we’d be happily playing, when – POW! –I’d have an angry outburst. She said this scared her.
All these years later, her childhood memories made me cry. I was filled with shame and remorse. I’d had no idea how my moods had affected her.
When we were kids, I also had no idea what ADHD was, or why I couldn’t control my impulsive anger.
Today, I understand that like other ADHD symptoms, effort and willpower are no match for undiagnosed ADHD. >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 11/08/2011 - 12:31
Want to read some love letters? I like to be even handed, so I asked the ADHD spouses in my last couples course to tell me what they love about their non-ADHD spouse. Here is what some said: >>> Read more >>>
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Mon, 10/17/2011 - 17:04
One of the things I love about my own spouse is his empathy, generosity and warmth. Is this related to his ADHD? I’m not sure, though I do observe that if they don’t have specific anger issues, many of ADHD spouses I work with have very generous spirits. Sometimes they act on that generosity in a way that warms others…sometimes they don’t…which makes them pretty much like the non-ADHD around us. Regardless, generosity of spirit, if you spouse possesses it, is something to celebrate. Here is “what I love about my ADHD spouse >>> Read more >>>