Couples' Seminar with Melissa Orlov - The ADHD Effect In-Depth

No matter where you are in the world, you can take this seminar...

"This course gave my husband and me the breakthrough we so desperately needed."

"Thank you again for such a life-changing seminar. It was the best and most effective money and time we ever spent."

"Your class has brought a bright ray of hope to our marriage."

"We are in the best place we have ever been as a couple - and without your course we would never have managed that - in fact, without your course we wouldn't have managed to stay together...."

     -  To read more participant comments, go to the bottom of this page.


This is my premier seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples.  It provides hope, information and the tools you need to move to thrive in a healthier, happier relationship.  In it you will learn:

  • How to trust again
  • The steps you need to take to let go of your anger and frustration
  • How to move from “correcting our problems” to “enjoying each other”
  • Why there is hope for you and your partner...and how to tap into it
  • How to deal with a partner who is not yet in control of his or her anger
  • What you both need to know about ADHD treatment
  • Strategies that move you away from parent/child interactions into a balanced, equal-status partnership
  • How to significantly improve your communication skills
  • The ways you can be closer than you have been in a long time, and find the joy and intimacy you miss

Agenda and dates


All sessions start at 8:00 pm EASTERN time.  If you wish to be notified of future seminars, please put your name on our seminar notification list.  Dates below are subject to change.
WED, Sept. 16 Session 1:  Optimizing ADHD treatment; Understanding the differences between you
TUES, Sept 22 Session 2:  Interpreting ADHD symptoms; Symptom/response/response cycles and how to interrupt them; Defensiveness and anger intro
Tues, Sept 29 Session 3:  Anger continued; Getting out of parent/child dynamics; The healing process; Setting boundaries
Tues, Oct 6 Session 4:  Communication strategies that work

(one week break)
Tues, Oct 20 Session 5:  Getting away from fights and chore wars

Tues, Oct 27 Session 6:  Difficult to understand behaviors in both partners and what to do about them (lying, pornography, affairs and more)
WED, Nov 4 BONUS SESSION:  Getting organized with ADHD; the emotional issues plus ideas that work
Tues, Nov 10 Session 7:  Rebuilding trust; the science of finding joy in your ADHD-impacted relationship
Tues, Nov 17 Session 8:  Conflict intimacy; sex and desire, more conversational skills; next steps

For a more detailed curriculum, go to this page.


Melissa Orlov has been teaching (and constantly improving) this seminar since 2010.  She is the author of two award-winning books on the topic of ADHD and relationships, and is dedicated to helping couples impacted by ADHD learn how to thrive.  She is a popular instructor, giving talks and seminars for couples and therapists around the world.  

Melissa is one of the foremost authorities on this topic, and is known for her practical approach - providing both insight from her many years of experience and specific strategies that work.  She wants you to focus on what works.  With this seminar she has surprised many couples who had lost hope...but then learned specific skills they needed to improve their lives together.

At this site you can find many resources developed by Melissa and her team and she hopes you will explore.  If you want more details about Melissa, go to the About page.

Who should take this seminar?

Generally, both partners take the seminar, as this is how you make the most progress.  However, one partner may also take it solo.

  • “mixed” couples – one partner with and one partner without ADHD
  • dual –ADHD couples
  • therapists and counselors


  • partners do not need to have an official diagnosis of ADHD – only suspect they may have it – this course will help them determine how to proceed
  • any age
  • married or committed to each other
  • any gender mix
  • from any location in the world

Pricing & refund policy

$289 per couple includes:

  • 8 regular sessions of a lecture and live Q&A, given by conference call
  • 1 new bonus session about motivating better organization with ADHD
  • presentation materials (sent out ahead of call)
  • homework and some readings*
  • 3 surveys to collect ALL of your questions not asked in the live Q&A
  • 3 sets of insightful written answers to your questions
  • email support for exceptionally private questions
  • all course materials, including lecture recordings, are yours to keep

If you or your partner is an active military service member, please email Melissa after you receive your confirmation email for a 50% active military discount (provided by refund).

Full, 100% refunds are offered to any couple up to the third session.

*The textbook for the course is The ADHD Effect on Marriage and is not included in the price of the seminar.  The calling number is not toll-free, though can be connected to by computer by most.

Logistics: How the seminar works

  • Sessions are given by conference call, which can be accessed by phone or computer, anywhere in the world (different locations for each of you is fine)
  • All sessions are given live starting at 8:00pm eastern (New York, U.S.) time, ending around 9:45pm
  • If you miss a session, you can listen to the recording made of each session
  • For those overseas or with conflicts – it’s easy to take the seminar by only listening to the recordings and submitting your questions – you won’t miss anything

International couples and those with conflicts

Couples who live in a time zone that does not mesh well with the 8:00 pm eastern (New York) start time of the live calls should still register for this course.  You will be provided with recordings of each live session the day after it occurs, and will still benefit from hearing the live Q&A, which is also on the recording.   You can send in your questions via email and in surveys in the course for gathering your questions, so you will miss nothing.

Self-study option

Price per couple is $275.

For those times when the live course is not being given, couples can access the most recent course materials in recorded form. 

  • 8 sessions of recorded lectures, including the most recent live sessions' Q&As
  • the bonus session
  • presentation materials
  • homework and some readings*
  • all course materials are yours to keep

It does not include:

  • regularly scheduled sessions (you have to motivate yourself...)
  • 3 surveys to collect your written questions and provide you with answers to them
  • email support for exceptionally private questions
  • access to Melissa   Note:  during the pandemic, you can join in one of my free virtual office hours sessions to ask questions
  • refunds, as you have all of the materials

Note that if time conflicts are your only issue, you can register for the live seminar but skip the live sessions and listen to the recordings as they come out, instead.  You won’t miss anything taking the live seminar this way.

*The textbook for the course is The ADHD Effect on Marriage, which is not included in the registration fee.

The fee for the self-study option is $275.  Click the SELF-STUDY “buy now” button to purchase it.

Need More Convincing?:

Listen to Melissa discuss how her ADHD groups and seminars are structured, the benefits of working with other similar couples, top tips for maintaining a healthy relationship when ADHD is involved, and what she wants to achieve when working on a relationship with a couple in this OverComingDistraction Podcast.

Watch and learn from ADHD couples who fell back in love again!


  1. Go to the registration button and pay via PayPal or credit card.
  2. If you purchase the RECORDED version of the course, you will immediately be sent an email with the link to all the course materials.  Please check your spam folder if you don't get this right away, and make sure to read download instructions.
  3. If you purchase the LIVE course, we will send you a confirmation IMMEDIATELY with more information via THE EMAIL ADDRESS YOU USED WITH PAYPAL.  Please read it!  If you don't get this email, check your spam folder or contact Melissa with a different email address so she can send you the information you need.
  4. This course is not meant to replace therapy or the advice of your doctor.  Melissa Orlov is marriage consultant, not a doctor.  Please see your doctor for any questions about medications or treatment.
  5. You shouldn't have any trouble with the downloading the self-study course, but if you do, this page will help you.

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Refund policy:  Refunds are not offered for the self-study course.  100% refunds for the live course are offered up to the third session.

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Couples share how this course helped them

"My how our lives have changed!  I credit you and this course with helping us to focus on what needed to be done and then helping us to get started! We have done a lot of work since and it has paid off handsomely."

"I'm finding the sessions are saving my marriage and want to thank you."

"It was a great class which really gave us the knowledge to understand the underlining dynamics of our marriage and helped us gain some footing to change our lives in a BIG way. Thank you!"

“Couples struggling with ADHD will greatly benefit from taking this course. ...What could be better than sitting in the comfort of your own home and discovering a way to shift the destructive patterns that have consumed the marriage that you once dreamed of?"

"We have just followed your couples session and it is a lifesaver for us! Other therapies never worked and now I understand why."

“This course has been great. Better than any therapy session we've had. It was filled with practical information and the approach was right on. My husband and I are moving forward. I also loved being able to do the course from the privacy of my own home...NO babysitters needed and pjs too!”

“I would recommend this course to any couple who is struggling with ADHD.... Reading the book and attending the seminars has helped my spouse and I more than any other type of therapy.... I can say now that my marriage is on solid ground, the best ever, and it is due to our hard work and the help of this book/seminar.”

"You give us hope we can get this right someday!"

"Thank you SO much!  (After only two sessions this is) already some of the best material we've experienced, and we spent thousands  in 10 years of therapy together. Your targeted approach is so appreciated with obvious concrete examples of what we can do to create change."

"Your course was and has been a most transformative event and positive rescue of my relationship...a big, sincere, "thank you!"  Your positive, non-judgmental, and non-condescending voice was a huge difference from the other sources of council we sought." 

"We both think you are the most knowledgeable person we have met on ADHD, and that you have the best skills to articulate that knowledge."

"My husband and I love your course so much. We've learned so much, and think listening to your candor and kind responses to all of these couples is really incredible."

"We have started going through the whole course again and I cannot believe how much really good stuff is in there and how much value I have received in going through it again..."

"I am the ADHD partner (and) I am not a novice to self-help and professional modalities. Your course is the best thing I have ever encountered for actual hands on non-judgmental tools for understanding, saving, and renewing relationship with ADHD. Your presentation is superb."

"You will always remind me of Proverbs 27:6 – “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.”  You commendably hit hard and trust/respect people to take it constructively."

"We started looking in 2009 for assistance with the ADHD and couldn't find anyone.  Seven years later we found you.   The seminar has been life-changing for us and we are grateful."

"Thank you so much for sharing your indispensable wisdom. You understand what we’ve been dealing with in a way no counselor, pastor or friend has been able to simply because they just don’t get it. Your words of wisdom are so profound to me and so applicable to what we deal with."

"Just want to say thanks…you have heard this before I’m sure. We learned more from you in 1 session than all the others in ongoing [$$$] therapy.  You have crossed our paths at a very necessary time in our lives."

"Your class had life-changing effects on our marriage.  Thank you!"

"This is a very well planned and compassionate course.  It is a gift to the world!"

"Your ADD Effect on Marriage course is fabulous and I look forward to the Intimacy one next!"

“This course offers precise, compassionate tools to create a marriage that is based on mutual trust and respect... Melissa speaks from her own experience and I am most grateful that she has taken the time to share this experience with us. I can honestly say that she has saved our marriage.”

"I have really gotten a lot out of this seminar and I'm very glad I enrolled."

"Just a note to say we're still thriving several months after your class!  :-)"

"I just wanted to say that during your classes my mouth is gaping open for a lot of it! Such incredible information...!"

"I’m learning so much from your seminar. You do a fantastic job and are so thorough and non-judgemental to both sides. You are using your story and your gifts in a mighty way by giving so many people the hope they need to persevere through the very hard times."

"It is remarkable that (after your seminar) our marriage situation changed from 'the worst' to 'the best' in only 8 months! We will continue our effort to improve, but I can say confidently that our marriage is “happily staying”...Oh, before I forget. Last, but not a least, yes, our sex life that was equivalent to something like a 80 year old couple got better as well (^0^).  Thank you..."

"I've really "taken the bull by the horns" to try to beat this ADHD thing and know I can only work on myself.  Thank you for empowering me when I hadn't felt empowered for a very long time!" (ADHD participant)

"Your class is a big help and I'm so grateful I stumbled upon you and your book. What you do matters to so many people. Thanks for the impact you've had on my marriage. You're ability to make both spouses comfortable is a gift."

"Thank you for the wonderful course.  There are not enough words to express my gratitude." (husband with ADHD)

“The course made me feel lucky that we were taking action before our marriage further deteriorated. It was very helpful to break through to core issues and get both of us to understand that we both had valid reasons to change. The course was a lot to take in but organized well. I think we are left with many tools and tricks that we will use and revisit.”

"What I'm most excited about is that I have my best friend back again!  Thank you!"

"I just wanted to say thank you for all that you have taught me about how to be a good spouse, ADHD or not.  My husband and I have worked hours on the homework, our communication skills, and for the first time in our married lives, I feel we are working as a couple.  Yesterday we celebrated 29 years since we fell in love, but now I feel that the love we have recommitted to since starting your course is true, mature, lasting, 'til death do us part kind of love; I feel empowered that we can make it through anything as a couple, whereas in the past, we made it through things as separate units.  And for this Valentine's Day my husband is actually taking me dancing - who knew?!"

"This course helped my husband and me tremendously. For the first time we didn't feel that either one of us was to blame. That allowed us to finally let go of some anger and start working on getting better. Without this first step I don't think improvement would be possible. 

We found out that there were so many couples that were just like us. I can't tell you how good it feels to know that we are just normal people having a normal reaction to a difficult situation.  We have made more progress in this seminar than we have in 2 years of couples therapy."

"I just wanted to share with you that my husband and I, who were separated, are starting to turn our marriage around...I definitely feel your book and workshop were a turning point.  We wouldn't be reconnecting without them..."

"We wanted to follow up with you and tell you we are doing amazingly well - we sold our house more quickly than expected and have moved. We put lots of your techniques from your online class and book to work successfully while cleaning and moving 24 years of stuff - a job which would be stressful under the best of circumstances. We continue to be excited about our "new and improved" relationship.  Thank you again.  I really feel as though you helped us save our marriage."

"As a couple, we highly recommend Melissa's course and book. Both are excellent in terms of creating a safe environment for a couple to begin to work on the issues that are eroding their marriage. The course and book are the only resources that we've found that place equal emphasis on both partner's roles -- turning the spotlight away from just your partner's problems to where it belongs -- working on one's own role in the partnership first, which strengthens you for the teamwork which is required to truly tackle the challenges ahead. My ADHD husband finally felt like his concerns in our marriage were addressed, and he could get beyond any denial. As a non-ADHD spouse, I knew Melissa had a first-hand understanding of my concerns, and she showed compassion. We both liked the fact that she wasn't going to let anyone shirk their responsibilities to the marriage -- but she gets you moving in a positive direction by suggesting constructive ways to begin excavating a relationship that may be buried deep -- by layers of damaging patterns of interactions and unproductive coping strategies."

"This course helped my husband and I tremendously. We were at the end point and looking for any last bit of hope/faith to figure out what was happening to us. Having the connection to a person (Melissa) who knows exactly what you are living through is extremely helpful. The biggest help was really understanding you are not alone and that it is not the NON-ADHD persons responsibility. If anything the ADHD person learns that it is OK to take responsibility for his/her ADHD and owns it. By the same token it is the responsibility of the NON-ADHD person to let go - free fall if you will - from trying to control everything to controlling your own self, behaviors, responses, etc. By the time you are reading this book and taking this course, you have come through a lot and are at a very volatile stage in your relationship. Melissa's discussions really help you understand that and realize that you do have a choice about many things in your relationship. It's whether you choose to make the changes or not that really will float you both to the top together and come out strong. I feel that my husband and I were able to do this. We are certainly not proficient yet, but we are now on the right path to continue our journey in life together. This book and Melissa's course have helped us in ways we could never have imagined BUT THANKFULLY FOUND IN TIME!!!"

"I felt this course was a guidepost each week. Sometimes I really feel lost in the dark with dealing with my spouse's untreated ADHD and this course was a way to navigate through some of the difficult-to-talk-about details."

"You have given us hope and a direction.  I am forever grateful to your wisdom, and ability to even handedly deliver your message.  My ADHD husband has felt like the bad guy for so long but you managed to get him to sit still and look at himself without judgment.  That’s pretty amazing!!!"

"As an ADHD spouse, reading a book alone may not be enough. This course was a good compliment to Melissa's message. If you are seeking out this type of information and question its real life application, this course really is the 1st step beyond the book to truly resolving these hard issues."

"Melissa is very good at addressing both spouses and their issues and offers practical and easy to implement ideas that really do turn things around during the Seminar. The question and answer time at the end of each session helps a lot also. I highly recommend this course for any couples who are struggling in an ADHD marriage relationship. Thank you so much, Melissa, for your time and effort to help others."

"Your course literally saved our marriage. It has turned it around and given us new tools and perspectives that no marriage counselor has been able to give to us. It is still tough but in a manageable sense. I have finally stopped being co-dependent and parenting and my personal life is much more fulfilling and less stressed. Our kids will now not have to be kids of divorced parents as I was truly at my wits end when I found your site. Thank you!"

"This seminar has been a true God send. It's been the only thing that has actually allowed each of us to see the others' point of view in an unbiased way. If you've been struggling in your Adhd impacted marriage or partnership, this seminar will clarify a lot about the dynamics of how you got to where you are in your relationship, as well as the tools to make it better and how to continue growing and enjoying your marriage."

"THANK YOU!!!!!"

"My husband and I have been married for 29 years much of it filled with miscommunication, disappointment and anger. I found and read Melissa's book, The ADHD Effect on Marriage. I could not believe how closely it mirrored our own situation. My husband also read it and embraced the ideas of treatment, exercise and diet. We signed up for the class and have been working through the homework assignments which are at times, painful but ultimately cathartic. What a transformative experience! For the first time in 30 years, I have a sense of hope about our relationship. My husband is trying to be more attentive, present and reliable. I have attempted to stop nagging and parenting him. I am also seeing a therapist in an effort to let the past be. We are actually having fun together as a couple and as a family. I never thought that this would be possible and cannot thank Melissa enough for her wisdom, intelligence and objective stance toward couples coping with ADD."

"I think your work is profound and life changing. Here we are, a family practice MD and a Masters of Counseling, and we were royally stuck. 26 years together and these new tools and information are extremely helpful. We are learning to be better human beings in all realms. These tools are helpful in all relationships. We are 40 year LGBT rights activists, and your books and teleconferences and homework assignments help us in this important realm too..."

"Outstanding!! ...Melissa was very prompt and always answered our questions in a highly professional and sensitive manner..."

"Your emotional intelligence, patience, and the way you handle the questions before, during, and after your presentation are really nothing short of amazing. Thank you for helping improve our lives...!"

"This has been a critical class for us. We've both gained so much and knowing that we aren't the only ones, really makes things better. We are still working on the homework and that's ok...and its been invaluable. We'd be happy to re-take this class once a year! Soooo glad we have the recordings to review..."

"Melissa's seminar was exactly what we needed after my partner received his ADHD diagnosis. She seemed to be speaking directly to us and to our 30 year struggle as a couple. We had no idea that many other couples struggle with the same challenges and we were skeptical that we could learn to rise about the anger, disappointment and frustration that we experienced with each other. We have come so far in understanding each other through this seminar and we both are hopeful for the future thanks to Melissa's tremendously helpful class."