“Oh the things you can find
if you don’t stay behind.” - Dr. Seuss

Red fish, blue fish, one fish…oh, wait, that’s the wrong story!

How much fun was it to read Dr. Seuss’ stories when we were growing up? And to ‘see’ the wisdom behind his words, too? In this case, he’s talking about being ‘open’ to new adventures and experiences. This quote struck me because I have just come out of about a three-year period in my life in which I was open to some new things (learning to play the cello being at the top of the list) but was definitely NOT open to everything life was sending my way. Under stress, my life shrank and my relationship suffered as my husband felt he couldn’t approach me easily.

Who wants that?! No, really…that is a serious question. Research suggests that remaining open to the ideas and opportunities that we are all bombarded with can mean the difference between success and mediocrity. In a relationship, I think that means being fearless about hearing what our partners want to tell us – even if that information is hard to hear. What we ‘find’ when we do this is deeper and more meaningful connections with our partner.

Melissa will be speaking in New York City tomorrow, January 8th, 6:30pm at West End Collegiate Church, 245 W. 77th St. More information about events is at the events page.

You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at my marriage and ADHD website, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar.  This eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and is given by phone, so anyone may participate.

The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD, available in Audio Book and Kindle, explores the emotional "Hot Spots" that couples impacted by ADHD commonly face and what to do about them.

Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship.  Please take a moment to investigate the information available to you.  It can literally change your life!

Link to ADHD and Marriage website