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How does one forgive?  I have separated from my husband and I feel confident that my decision to do so was wise.  But I realized tonight that the resentment and anger that I feel toward my husband are somewhat hindering my life.  I can't and don't want to forget that my husband did things that hurt me and that some of those actions were intended to hurt me.  But the resentment and anger also hurt me (and seem to have no effect on my husband).  Any suggestions?  Thank you.  

Hi, was wondering if anyone else had this issue. My ADHD partner was diagnosed two yrs ago and is on meds. My partner never discussed anything in the classes we listened to unless I brought it up.  This really bothered me that I did it and he allowed me to. I thought both people were to work this out.

This is my first time posting but I've been reading this site for more than 4 years. I've been with my husband for 8 years, married for almost 4.  He has ADHD and is on medication.  He isn't hyperactive at all, but he has issues focusing and I'm guessing he has a learning disability as well.  Other than taking medication, he does little else to learn or understand his ADHD.  He never reads this site even though I've asked him to several times. 

My ADHD partner started taking Adderall for his ADHD about 18 months ago. He started at a low dose (20 mg, I think) and seemed to do well. He was much less forgetful, more focused, and seemed more productive and happier as a result. However, when he and his doctor decided that the dose was too low and upped it to 40 mg, I started noticing personality changes: wild mood swings, violent temper fits, paranoia, and general agitation, especially in the early am and late pm when the drug wasn't in full effect.

Well I read many stories on this website only to be reminded of my own. I am 24, married for a little over two years to my husband. We have a beautiful 10 month old daughter together. After months of for myself, and depression diagnosis, from post partum to possible mild bipolar disorder. It just dawned on me today, that the only person in which i have deep white hot anger for is my husband!!!

I just found this website a few days ago and have been reading through all the posts and it's scary how well they describe my life.  My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and until recently I really had no understanding of ADHD.  We were both in our 40's when we met and he told me about his disorder, but he also said it had improved as he had gotten older and he no longer needed meds (which had caused some side affects, thus he stopped taking them before we met).  I really didn't think much of it and proceeded with the relationship as if there were

This is my first post here.  A brief summary of my situation:   For over 3 years I have been in a long distance committed relationship.  Our relationship has been tough for the past 2 years because of the distance, the fact that he was out of work for 18 months, which meant all visits were done by me, and the fact that he has a sleep disorder (long sleep syndrome) which means he often sleeps for very long periods of time (12-15 hours is not uncommon)...even during my once a month weekend visit.  Anyway, after trying every which way to express my unhappiness and feel

I am a non-ADHD husband and I am really struggling to find any kind of hope to keep me motivated to stay positive in my marriage.  If it weren't for our two gorgeous boys, I think I would be long gone. After years and years of feeling like it's all up to me, I think I've finally reached my limit.

First off, let me say my wife is amazing and is absolutely the most amazing person/woman in my life.  I forget things all the time, make stupid mistakes, and it's really taken a hit to our relationship.  The main thing that hurts her feelings is when I say i'm going to do something, and then I do not follow through.

Please help.

Another holiday season is coming up and I find myself in the same frustration.  Dh wants to be part of the "help" but only wants to do things at the spur of the moment, nothing planned, no one can suggest or tell him what needs to be done, he wants to do only what looks like fun to him.  Then the delight for him is not is doing and creating and working together but rather to "get credit" from the crowd when they come.

I have been going through a lot with my DH.I love him a lot and can't do with out him.He came in to my life and really showed me a different world out here.The reality step in our lives where i have my kids,work,life.His acceptance towards this has been very difficult meaning he has been step aside from the equation of my personal conduct responsibilities home.He feels left out,abandoned,and completely ignored for this entire time we are together 3 yrs plus now..

I have posted in a forum before and got a lot of negative replays saying I should run and not out up with him, etc. So I'm a bit hesitant of posting this. 

the guy I am with has extremely bad ADHD. The saddest part is, that he has never been taught how to properly deal with it. He was on pills for it which were ones that also dealt with his anxiety and depression. He went off of his pills though and hasn't been as up and down since he stopped them. 

Hello.  I've never posted here before but I've been reading on this site and others for the last couple of years about ADD/ADHD and it's effects on marriage.  I even have the book.  My husband is undiagnosed but has several signs of ADHD.  Unorganized, speed driven, easily distracted. He said this morning that he wants a divorce.  We have been married for over 6 years.  We are a second marriage with a blended family, children ages 20-30 with four grandchildren from his children.

I am a 59 year old man, My spouse of 15 years has ADD. I love my wife. She is intelligent, creative, hard working, has a great sense of humor and is very attractive. We met 17 years ago. She has 2 children; a 31 year old daughter who is happily married and lives with her husband in Atlanta and a 23 year old son, who also has ADD and is currently living with us.  When we married, my wife who was previously married had been divorced for about 3 years.

I'm a 35 year old non ADHD wife married to my 41 year old husband, for the past 15 years. We have 5 children 2-16. The past 15 years have been a nightmare. My husband was diagnosed, but refused medication. No drug or alcohol use ever on either of our parts. No cheating in my end ever. He has never been caught.

He's a compulsive liar. Lies about everything and daily.

Says he knows he does bad things but cant stop doing them

he foreclosed on our home. I had NO idea until the sheriff served me papers. 

Hi. Im in my early 20's & have been dating a girl with ADHD. At first I didnt know she had ADHD, but different tendencies kept popping up so I researched the symptoms & realized she had it. She's also since admitted to having it to me. I saw a lot of good in her & I thought a lot of people gave up on her early in life because of something she did not control, so I promised myself I would at least improve her life , even if I eventually lose interest in this relationship. 

I am a newlywed and My husband has adult ADHD, at least that's what we think since he was diagnosed as a child-- reading the book ADHD and it's effects on marriage, almost every page of that book has almost mirrored my own life. Let's just say I get a lot of anxiety reading this book. My husband has not been diagnosed with it as an adult because he has never gone to see a doctor and talk to them about it. And now that we have health insurance finally, he still is doing what he wants to do, at his own pace--meaning getting care for himself.