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I just need to admit this and deal with it. I saw signs of him "resigning himself" nearly 20 years ago and failed or refused to see those signs as red flags. In these past two decades, it has slowly, progressively gotten worse. Whenever I brought up ADD, he'd fly off the handle.

Have been trying online dating for a few days. Out of hundreds of men’s profiles I’ve found only one person attractive. He contacted me full of enthusiasm. 

Then we’ve tried to arrange a first date. Yesterday I drove 15 miles to a place and time he’d suggested, just to find he’d cancelled on 1,5 hour’s notice because he was ’caught up in a neighboring town’ and wouldn’t make it. 

Today he wanted to see me but we were both busy during the day. When I suggested 8 pm in his neighborhood he answered it was too late for him. 

Before I say another word. I want to express wholeheartedly that I come to this forum to share my deepest and most intimate thoughts because I know, there are poeple here I can trust.  Having said that, I'm going to to say a few things that might not be well received by everyone, especially those with string religious ( Chriatian in particular ) conviction. What I'm about to say, is approximately 63 years coming to my best recollection....age 5. 

What I'm doing now, is making a list of people who no longer get access to me. These people are off my list. 

Content Warning: Contains references to suicide

I'm having another SMH moment concerning my sister. To be clear, a "Deb" is short for Debutante...and yes, I'm being monitored. 

If you recall, I mentioned my mom trying to put me through Debutante Training from lack of understanding how little boys operate. I definitely didn't operate that way! 

This is absolutely,  a perfect example of how there was a complete breakdown and disconnect in communication in my family unit. I'll the backstory as brief as possible to get to the point.

Hello, the following situation has befallen a friend of mine. I want to support her in any way I can. Here is what happened:

Hi all! (Don’t use emojis or the post won’t save and you will get a strange error, got it)

I’m AuDHD, diagnosed at 45 and now 48. I’ve spent the past 5 years learning about autism, but I think I missed how much ADHD impacted my relationships.

I discovered some curious things within my own capacities and strengths.  One of the more intersect things to note; despite having ADHD,  I'm not only a good driver, but also a safe one. That actually carries over into a lot of things I've done in the past. The most interesting part for me is that I may do crazy stuff but I rarely, if ever, get injured. That's seems counterintuitive but it's simply true. By all means, I should have a laundry list of injuries, broken bones, etc...but I don't?

As some of you know, my extended family relations are strained. 

One thing I struggle with is how to manage holidays and special days. Coming up are a parent’s birthday and Midsummer’s Eve (a day of general celebration here).

Since the parent doesn’t host anything for their birthday it’s up to me to acknowledge the date in some way. It’s the weekend and I’ll be working, so there’s not much I can do but make a phone call and deliver a gift some other day (they live 2 hours away). But I still dread this date and have for years.

I've spent some comaiderable time,  thought and self reflection, in determining my strengths and weaknesses, especially in the area of communication. I've recently re-educated myself with a different vocabulary to convey my own findings ( of myself ). This has taken a lot of research to find the accurate words to use. It's been a tough assignment but I think I've narrowed it down. 

My core values include:

authenticity

coherence

experiential truth

embodied honesty

precision

clarity