Forum topic: ADHD Girlfriend

Hello,

I’m looking for some advice please regarding my partner who has ADHD. We have been together for 4 years and moved in together 1 year ago, in that one year she must have shouted at me to leave calling me all the names under the sun, and how I’m so useless, a bad boyfriend etc. At least 4-5 times I packed my things and left. A few days to a week later she messages and calms down and we work it out and I go back, I know myself this isn’t right I shouldn’t go back, but it’s difficult when you love someone.

Before I moved in she would do this every so often, I would get a message saying it’s too much then breakup then message some time after words. At times we would be watching a film or chilling out and she would just stare in to space stand up and walkout.

She can go from being the most loved up person to being cold, not very talkative and wants to be on her own a lot then she will complain I’m not showing interest, I can’t do right for wrong. She can bury her head in a book all day and when I read something on my phone she gets angry. We go out a lot for meals and little holidays in the country and then complains it’s not good enough after wanting me to book it.

I’m just looking for advice on what to do, and what’s happening here? I get with ADHD you can get overwhelmed etc but this seems excessive. I’m just looking for some advice on what to do or if anyone has had similar experiences. She refuses to get proper help or talk about treatment but it’s way out of hand to the point she can’t go in to work.

Any help would be grateful