Double shift and cranky spouse :(

Newbie here, I have looked and read through during hard times but today seems different. I came home from a double stressful shift at work, my ADHD spouse has cabin fever and instead of finding himself something to do waits for me to arrive home. He then gets even more cranky when he realises that he messed up with money AGAIN so we cnt actually go and so anything. All I want to do is come home, relax and have a "normal" evening. I am so tired. Why can't he just occupy himself without needing to have such a big focus on spending money??? Rant over!