Symptoms for Women with ADHD

I am new to ADHD (I'm the non-ADHDer and I believe my husband has ADHD).  I also think his mother is either ADD or ADHD, but I can't seem to find anything about what symptoms women typically have when they are ADHD.  At this point it is not going to help my relationship with her but I am the type of person that needs to understand why things are the way they are and why my husband is the way he is.  I think once he can accept the reality of what is happening to him and maybe understand the "why" as well it will be easier for him to cope.  I also think if I knew that his mother had ADD/ADHD or could pin point what she has............ it would help me to let go of the anger and resentment I have toward her (too much history to post here) can anyone help me with where to find information?  I've seen in some of the posts that ADHD seems to be passed from parent to child, most of the time.  Is it more common to be father/son mother/daughter or does it matter?

Any help would be appreciated.  Thank you for what this site has given me already, freedom to realize I'm not crazy, psycho or alone.