Joy in Marriages with ADHD
ADHD and Marriage: You Know Your Relationship is Improving When...
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 23:16
This site spends a lot of time addressing and airing problems - I thought it was time to write a light hearted post about the successes that couples who have come here have experienced. These are all real stories taken from my clients of the past few months. Enjoy!
You know your relationship is improving when... >>> Read more >>>
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Out of the Woods
Submitted by arwen on Mon, 08/09/2010 - 02:47
After being unemployed for over a year, I recently returned to work at the company from which I was laid off -- when business got better, they called me back, doing similar work but on a different product. While I had been unemployed, my ADHD husband's job had heated up, and I had taken over more of the household responsibilities to more evenly distribute the total effort. When I was asked to return to work, we knew it was going to be a big adjustment -- his job was still very busy, but he was going to have to take back his household responsibilities, because I was going >>> Read more >>>
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ADHD and Marriage: If You're So Unhappy, Why Stay?
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Fri, 08/06/2010 - 10:10
Recently, a poster in the forum asked the very good question - if you are all so miserable in your marriages, why do you stay? I'll give you my own answer - George and I stayed together because even though we were really miserable, we couldn't believe we couldn't do better. The intractability of the issues we were dealing with didn't make sense. We had chosen each other as partners for good reason...then things fell apart...but couldn't we make them better again? >>> Read more >>>
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What I Like About You (My ADD Spouse)
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 09/03/2009 - 15:41
Over the last couple of years 416 people in marriages affected by ADHD have answered our survey about their experiences and feelings. One of the questions we asked was “What gives you the greatest pleasure in your relationship?” We can sort this information a number of ways, but here is an overview of how our 70 respondents without ADD who are married to people with officially diagnosed ADD answered that question. I share these responses because too often worn-out posters suggest that there are no positives to be found in ADHD-affected relationshi >>> Read more >>>
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Rekindling Love and Affection, or “Losing the Heart of Stone”
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Fri, 08/28/2009 - 13:40
There is a very interesting conversation going on around my “Learning to Like Yourself Again” post of 7/30/09. A number of readers relate their stories about the relief they have felt as they have started to “become themselves” again and let go of some of their struggle. The question for some, though, is “how do I rekindle the warmth/affection in my own heart for my spouse?” >>> Read more >>>
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The Sweet and Sour of ADD
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Wed, 06/24/2009 - 16:44
Ned Hallowell likes to say that ADD is a “gift that’s hard to unwrap”. Frankly, I’m not sure how I feel about the “gift” idea – instead I tend to think of ADD as something that can be “sweet and sour”. When a person with ADD is in what I think of as “good alignment” (or perhaps their “sweet spot”) life can be very sweet. But when it’s sour everything can be awful! >>> Read more >>>
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If You Are Engaged to Someone with ADHD
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Mon, 04/20/2009 - 11:27
There have been quite a few comments lately on this site suggesting that people should avoid marrying someone with ADD. This advice makes me very uneasy and I would like to weigh in on it. >>> Read more >>>
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ADHD and Marriage: You Are SO Different!
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Sat, 03/14/2009 - 11:08
If you are in a marriage in which one spouse has ADHD and the other does not, I will guarantee you that you are both even more different than you think. Your brains works differently, you experience the world around you differently, and you interpret information differently. By understanding how, you can avoid common communication errors that lots of “mixed” couples make as well as learn to treasure your unique abilities.
Here are some of the key ways you are different: >>> Read more >>>
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ADHD Marriages: Lowering Expectations vs. Improving Them
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 11/11/2008 - 18:58
I often hear the comment that non-ADHD spouses need to lower their expectations in order to be happy in their relationships. I would disagree. I think that all spouses need to improve their expectations. Let me explain my thinking, and how this might work in the real world. >>> Read more >>>
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Should I Be Frightened For My ADD Relationship?
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Tue, 10/14/2008 - 15:49
I have read a couple of posts recently that have noted that reading all of the posts in the forum makes people frightened for the future of their relationship with a person with ADD. “Do we have a chance?” these people ask. The answer, unequivocally, is YES! Let me share one of these posts, which I think really clearly states many of the issues in ADD relationships, and then tell you why and how I think this couple can (and will) succeed. >>> Read more >>>
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