Light and Love

ADHD & Marriage News - March 7, 2024

Quote of the Week

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that.

Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”

- Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King

I love this image as a call out for love, and want to pursue the analogy as it applies to ADHD-impacted relationships.

An important ray of light that is useful for both ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners is learning to be more self-compassionate. In doing so you shower yourself with love. When your inner hurt little child shows up, you can observe them and give them an internal hug. You can say ‘of course you couldn’t take care of this complicated issue when you were 8! It’s okay. I still love you.’ Or, perhaps, ‘you/I took an awful lot of criticism when I was growing up, and of course it hurts! I/you didn’t have the support needed back then to withstand the onslaught, and that little version of me deserves a hug.’

It takes hard work to tame the inner critic. But there are inspirational authors, as well as CBT and IFS therapists who can help you start the process. I also personally found the book Boundary Boss helps many women start to address some of these issues.

Removing your internal critic is a gift you give yourself, and well worth the effort. Do you know how you might start being self-compassionate?

➤ SPRING REGISTRATION IS NOW OPEN! - Non-ADHD partner support groups (starting in March and April) Participants support each other, explore their biggest issues and most pressing problems, and get advice from the group leader - and from each other. Develop strategies for finding satisfaction and happiness as you explore how to traverse this complicated life you have.

Resources For those in relationships impacted by ADHD

SEMINARS, GROUPS:

ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? My premier, highly acclaimed 9-session zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The next LIVE seminar will start in Fall 2024. (There will be NO spring seminar in 2024.)

Non ADHD Partner Support Group (registration now open for eight groups) and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group - Be part of a community exploring similar issues, successes and struggles and find new, effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.

New: ADHD & Marriage Professional Training Program - an integrated team of experts dedicated to supporting the needs of couples and adults impacted by ADHD.

FREE RESOURCES:

How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD;

Downloadable chapters of my books;

A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;

A large number of blog posts on various topics;

Referrals

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