Negotiation and Setting Boundaries

When you’re in a committed relationship, money can give you freedom to live a life of your own design or bind you in shackles. You need to: meet on the same page; work together towards the same goal; and give each other consideration for things like ADHD and impulsivity spending. In this article financial expert, Rick Webster, will take you through steps to make and keep a budget - all for the goal of financial freedom.

Parent/Child is hard to get out of, but you must do so to thrive.  These tips can help you begin.

Non-ADHD partners end up feeling more resentful when they work on their relationship without input or engagement from an ADHD spouse.

Couples often have trouble agreeing on whether or not a partner is having an emotional affair.  Here's how to figure it out.

When I work with couples impacted by ADHD I often see an unintentional bias towards using the label of ADHD as a negative descriptor, rather than as a medical term that enables treatment and describes a particular way of being.  This negative labeling - used by both partners - hurts relationships. as it may lead to blaming the ADHD partner for ALL relationships issues, while providing too easy an out for non-ADHD partners who also play a role in relationship issues.

Statistics about how many couples are impacted by one or more emotional or physical affairs are hard to believe, for obvious reasons, not least of which is that estimates vary so widely.  They range from 20-60% of men and 20-40% of women having an affair at some point in their relationship.  No matter the exact number, the bottom line is that a large number of couples experience this form of betrayal at some point in their partnership, often after that affair has been going on for a while. 

Staying organized enough to take care of parents and family members can add a lot of pressure to your life.  One woman with ADD recently reached out for advice:

Forgiveness takes time and effort, but with these eight steps you can forgive even the biggest transgressions.

A woman with ADHD asks for more support here for those who have this special kind of mind…and I agree.  But taking the negativity private isn’t the only way to go.

I posted recently about bed times and got several questions about how to get bedtimes aligned better.  I work with couples on this issue with great regularity - those with ADHD often go to bed late, while exhausted non-ADHD partners often go to bed early.  Couples miss out on good time to connect when they hit the bedroom at different times.  Here are some ideas to help:

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