You’ve just discovered that your partner is having an emotional or physical affair. This revelation has been a kick in the gut – the emotional pain is intense and confusing. You feel angry, volatile, are in intense pain, and perhaps feel panicked and fearful. Your partner’s response to these feelings seems inadequate, at best. How do you traverse this new territory?
ADHD and Marriage
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Welcome to "ADHD & Marriage"
Helping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Melissa Orlov and Dr. Ned Hallowell blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?
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What does it take for couples to move beyond ADHD and negative responses to ADHD? Our blogs help you find out. With a balanced, respectful approach, we provide the information, ideas and inspiration both partners need.
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I'm often asked what technology can help with some of the basic elements of better managing life when ADHD is a factor. Here are some high quality, easy, and often free apps and other technologies that couples report have helped their progress towards a calmer and happier life together.
Many adults with ADHD have tendencies towards hoarding behaviors and have trouble both keeping things cleaned up and tossing them out. It can drive their partner's crazy and cause a lot of conflict. What's going on, and what can you do?
Adult ADHD – and responses to that ADHD – can have a huge impact on your most important partnership. Learning more can help you transform your relationship into something that brings you both more joy.
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Living with ADHD can be tough, whether you have it, or are married to it. Share your questions, your confusion, your pain, and your experiences with others who face the same sorts of issues you do. You are not alone!
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Recent forum posts (all topics)
- Sad, lonely and anxious (as non- ADHD spouse) by: FeelingNeglected 1 day ago
- My ADHD partner diagnoses everyone as adhd by: Danny Albury 1 day ago
- Financial Irresponsibility by: Neuchatel81 2 days ago
- Non ADHD partner trying to navigate social situations with ADHD husband that dominates conversations by: lauraca1 2 days ago
- The Wake Up Call ie: the pile is starting to smell too much for my taste by: Where Have All ... 3 days ago
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- For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
- Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
- Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered
- 8 Tips for Dealing with ADHD Partner Clutter and Hoarding
- 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
- 13 Apps to Help Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?
- My Partner is Having an Affair. Now What?
- 10 Great Books For Couples Impacted by ADHD
- Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
- For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
- Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered
- 13 Apps to Help Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
- ADHD and Forgiveness Part 2 - Eight Steps to True Forgiveness
- 8 Tips for Dealing with ADHD Partner Clutter and Hoarding
- 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
- 10 Great Books For Couples Impacted by ADHD
- Six Signs that ADHD May Be Part of Your Marriage
- Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
- Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered
- For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
- 13 Apps to Help Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- 8 Tips for Dealing with ADHD Partner Clutter and Hoarding
- Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
- Six Signs that ADHD May Be Part of Your Marriage
- Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
- 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
- Empathy and ADHD
- 10 Great Books For Couples Impacted by ADHD
- For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
- Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
- Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
- 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
- 9 Reasons Porn Hurts
- Extreme Emotions and ADHD
- Empathy and ADHD
- Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered
- Six Signs that ADHD May Be Part of Your Marriage
- Not Getting Enough Sex in Your ADHD Marriage?
Popular forum topics in the last ...
- Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
- Sad, lonely and anxious (as non- ADHD spouse)
- New to This Site and an ADHD Relationship (engaged)
- Non ADHD partner trying to navigate social situations with ADHD husband that dominates conversations
- My ADHD partner diagnoses everyone as adhd
- What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
- What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
- How Adderall affects relationships
- Financial Irresponsibility
- Angry when I ask simple questions
- Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
- The time is now!
- New to This Site and an ADHD Relationship (engaged)
- What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
- What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
- Angry when I ask simple questions
- The Wake Up Call ie: the pile is starting to smell too much for my taste
- Non ADHD partner trying to navigate social situations with ADHD husband that dominates conversations
- Anyone experienced these with ADHD spouse? Just so tired.
- How Adderall affects relationships
- Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
- New to This Site and an ADHD Relationship (engaged)
- What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
- What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
- Angry when I ask simple questions
- Ready to Walk...Again
- How Adderall affects relationships
- Anyone experienced these with ADHD spouse? Just so tired.
- His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
- Letter to my husband: I have reached the end.
- Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
- What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
- What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
- Angry when I ask simple questions
- My wife hates me. I feel hopeless and depressed. I don't know what to do...
- His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
- Anyone experienced these with ADHD spouse? Just so tired.
- How Adderall affects relationships
- Why is my ADHD husband so short tempered and angry?
- My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
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