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Welcome to "ADHD & Marriage"

Helping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Melissa Orlov and Dr. Ned Hallowell blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?

Blogs & Tips

Insights and inspiration

What does it take for couples to move beyond ADHD and negative responses to ADHD? Our blogs help you find out. With a balanced, respectful approach, we provide the information, ideas and inspiration both partners need.

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Recent blog posts

  • Advice to Dual-ADHD Couple Struggling with Chores

    The question:

    “Both my husband and I have ADHD, it is so hard to maintain the house and have fun together and deal with work. I end up being the one who does most of the planning, maintenance of the house and dog, and I also have a demanding job.  How do we work to have a more balanced life where I’m not so burnt out all the time and mentally fatigued?”

  • ADHD and Long Work Hours! What's Going On?

    Long hours may be part of the job description or may be part of ADHD.  Here’s what may be going on and top strategies to address specific issues.

  • Adderall Shortage Hacks for Adults with ADHD

    For those of you who are having trouble getting your Adderall prescription filled, here are some ideas that may help.  Because I’m a relationship expert, and because medication changes can dramatically change how you interact with those around you, my first advice has to be about your most important relationships:

  • My Partner is Having an Affair. Now What?

    You’ve just discovered that your partner is having an emotional or physical affair.  This revelation has been a kick in the gut – the emotional pain is intense and confusing.  You feel angry, volatile, are in intense pain, and perhaps feel panicked and fearful. Your partner’s response to these feelings seems inadequate, at best.  How do you traverse this new territory?

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Community

Share questions & ideas

Living with ADHD can be tough, whether you have it, or are married to it. Share your questions, your confusion, your pain, and your experiences with others who face the same sorts of issues you do. You are not alone!

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Recent forum posts (all topics)

  • ADHD husband here - need advice by: Quercus McGurkus 1 day ago
  • Recently diagnosed husband personality and life changes by: ClaraB 2 days ago
  • Looking for stories of hope by: prestopr 3 days ago
  • Exhausted and don't know what to do. by: User090318 3 days ago
  • Melted Cake a Metaphor? by: Luvs2Run 4 days ago
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  • Thank you so much Melissa for by: Starlight123 7 hours ago
  • Hi Pelican. Thank you. That by: Starlight123 7 hours ago
  • I agree with Ellie's and by: PoisonIvy 17 hours ago
  • Yes - so much to look forward to! by: 1Melody1 23 hours ago
  • Look after you by: Elliej 1 day ago
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Seminars & Groups

Learn from our experts

ADHD-impacted relationships are not like other relationships and often struggle. Melissa Orlov, “one of the foremost authorities on ADHD and relationships in the world,” offers an outstanding 8-week phone seminar designed specifically to help couples impacted by ADHD learn to thrive. Our experts also offer self-study courses and coaching support groups for non-ADHD partners, ADHD partners, and for couples. Let us help you on your journey to re-find your love.

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Couples seeking help with the behaviors ADHD encourages in their relationship can work with Melissa Orlov by phone or Skype.

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Books & Resources

Curated for usefulness

Our goal is to help you learn what you need to know to create the loving, healthy relationship you seek. In this section you’ll find the best books for various issues couples impacted by ADHD often face, as well as video interviews, articles and research.

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ADHD Treatment

It's not just about meds

Here’s the good news – research suggests 50-80% of adults with ADHD can significantly improve, or even ‘normalize,’ their symptom management if they create a good ADHD treatment plan. This section provides what you need to know to create an optimized treatment plan for the ADHD partner. Hint – it’s definitely not just about meds.

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For Therapists

Training & more

This section is for counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help them improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

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  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
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  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
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  • How to confront my husband about his ADHD symptoms?
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  • I hate my self now.
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  • Can this ever be good?
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