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Welcome to "ADHD & Marriage"

Helping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Melissa Orlov and Dr. Ned Hallowell blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?

Blogs & Tips

Insights and inspiration

What does it take for couples to move beyond ADHD and negative responses to ADHD? Our blogs help you find out. With a balanced, respectful approach, we provide the information, ideas and inspiration both partners need.

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Recent blog posts

  • "My Partner Is Mad Because..."

    It's not just relationships with ADHD - these hilarious tweets show the side of marriage that you just have to laugh at...

  • Empathy and ADHD

    Partners of adults with ADHD sometimes report they are disappointed that their ADHD partner isn't more empathetic.  Lack of empathy can leave them feeling unloved or alone.  What to do?

  • What is Imago Therapy, and Can it Help My Marriage?

    There are a lot of different therapy modes that can help couples impacted by ADHD, including Gottman Couples Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and ADHD Effect Consulting.  This post, contributed by an Imago therapy practitioner and Rabbi, describes the ins and outs of Imago therapy and how it can fit with ADHD.  As always, it helps to find a specialist who understands ADHD.

  • What's the Difference Between ADD and ADHD?

    https://www.additudemag.com/add-adhd-symptoms-difference/Those who use the term 'ADD' are out of date.  But the distractible version that used to be called ADD is still around...just with a new name.  Here are the different types of ADHD and their key characteristics.

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Community

Share questions & ideas

Living with ADHD can be tough, whether you have it, or are married to it. Share your questions, your confusion, your pain, and your experiences with others who face the same sorts of issues you do. You are not alone!

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Recent forum posts (all topics)

  • Break Up (ADHD) by: adhdquestion 18 hours ago
  • Hello everyone... by: sadinsavannah 1 day ago
  • Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) by: Ardorguy 3 days ago
  • Question for non-ADHD spouses by: mike1112014 4 days ago
  • An ADHD - Trauma flashback reconciliation by: HGuerin 6 days ago
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Recent Comments

  • THIS. by: AdeleS6845 3 min ago
  • Feeling as though you've failed by: 1Melody1 3 hours ago
  • Change is a choice by: Beachlover68 2 days ago
  • Throw her a bone by: Will It Get Better 4 days ago
  • The interruptor by: mike1112014 4 days ago
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Seminars & Groups

Learn from our experts

ADHD-impacted relationships are not like other relationships and often struggle. Melissa Orlov, “one of the foremost authorities on ADHD and relationships in the world,” offers an outstanding 8-week phone seminar designed specifically to help couples impacted by ADHD learn to thrive. Our experts also offer self-study courses and coaching support groups for non-ADHD partners, ADHD partners, and for couples. Let us help you on your journey to re-find your love.

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Counseling

With Melissa Orlov

Couples seeking help with the behaviors ADHD encourages in their relationship can work with Melissa Orlov by phone or Skype.

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Books & Resources

Curated for usefulness

Our goal is to help you learn what you need to know to create the loving, healthy relationship you seek. In this section you’ll find the best books for various issues couples impacted by ADHD often face, as well as video interviews, articles and research.

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ADHD Treatment

It's not just about meds

Here’s the good news – research suggests 50-80% of adults with ADHD can significantly improve, or even ‘normalize,’ their symptom management if they create a good ADHD treatment plan. This section provides what you need to know to create an optimized treatment plan for the ADHD partner. Hint – it’s definitely not just about meds.

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For Therapists

Training & more

This section is for counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help them improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

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News

Recent news

  • Ramundo Seminar for Adults with ADHD

    Peggy Ramundo, one of my favorite experts on ADHD in adults, will be giving a free webinar for ADDitude Magazine on Oct 19th.  For more information, go to this link.

  • FDA Approves First Generic of Strattera

    Read the press release here.

  • Weight Loss for ADDers

    6/28 - Roberto Olivardia, of Harvard Medical School, will provide a free seminar on healthy weight loss for those with ADHD, compliments of ADDitdue Magazine.  He's great - don't miss it!

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In Focus

Topics In Depth

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Upcoming seminars & support groups

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ADHD Couples Stories

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  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • "My Partner Is Mad Because..."
  • What Does a Good Relationship Look Like When One Partner has ADHD?
  • When Both Spouses Have ADHD
  • 5 Tips for Ridding Your Relationship of That 'Tone' of Voice
  • Six Signs that ADHD May Be Part of Your Marriage
  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • "My Partner Is Mad Because..."
  • What Does a Good Relationship Look Like When One Partner has ADHD?
  • How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?
  • The Cuddle Rule
  • 5 Tips for Ridding Your Relationship of That 'Tone' of Voice
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • The Cuddle Rule
  • How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?
  • What Does a Good Relationship Look Like When One Partner has ADHD?
  • "My Partner Is Mad Because..."
  • 5 Tips for Ridding Your Relationship of That 'Tone' of Voice
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?
  • What Does a Good Relationship Look Like When One Partner has ADHD?
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • Finding the Right Partner When You Have ADHD
  • How to Grieve for the Relationship You Didn't Get
  • The Cuddle Rule
  • The Best Treatments for ADHD...and What Doesn't Work

Popular forum topics in the last ...

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  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • Break Up (ADHD)
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • Question for non-ADHD spouses
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • Low testosterone ADHD and Adderall
  • Letter to my husband: I have reached the end.
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • Feel like my husband is financially ruining me.
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • Question for non-ADHD spouses
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • How Adderall affects relationships
  • An ADHD - Trauma flashback reconciliation
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • Feel like my husband is financially ruining me.
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • Low testosterone ADHD and Adderall
  • How Adderall affects relationships
  • Letter to my husband: I have reached the end.
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • Low testosterone ADHD and Adderall
  • Letter to my husband: I have reached the end.
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • Feel like my husband is financially ruining me.
  • How Adderall affects relationships
  • Husband is a Know it All
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