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Welcome to "ADHD & Marriage"

Helping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Melissa Orlov and Dr. Ned Hallowell blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?

Blogs & Tips

Insights and inspiration

What does it take for couples to move beyond ADHD and negative responses to ADHD? Our blogs help you find out. With a balanced, respectful approach, we provide the information, ideas and inspiration both partners need.

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Recent blog posts

  • My Partner is Having an Affair. Now What?

    You’ve just discovered that your partner is having an emotional or physical affair.  This revelation has been a kick in the gut – the emotional pain is intense and confusing.  You feel angry, volatile, are in intense pain, and perhaps feel panicked and fearful. Your partner’s response to these feelings seems inadequate, at best.  How do you traverse this new territory?

  • 13 Apps to Help Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD

    I'm often asked what technology can help with some of the basic elements of better managing life when ADHD is a factor.  Here are some high quality, easy, and often free apps and other technologies that couples report have helped their progress towards a calmer and happier life together.

  • 8 Tips for Dealing with ADHD Partner Clutter and Hoarding

    Many adults with ADHD have tendencies towards hoarding behaviors and have trouble both keeping things cleaned up and tossing them out.  It can drive their partner's crazy and cause a lot of conflict.  What's going on, and what can you do?

  • Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered

    Adult ADHD – and responses to that ADHD – can have a huge impact on your most important partnership.  Learning more can help you transform your relationship into something that brings you both more joy.

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Community

Share questions & ideas

Living with ADHD can be tough, whether you have it, or are married to it. Share your questions, your confusion, your pain, and your experiences with others who face the same sorts of issues you do. You are not alone!

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Recent forum posts (all topics)

  • And yet... by: moghedien78 4 hours ago
  • New to This Site and an ADHD Relationship (engaged) by: LahLah 5 days ago
  • So now what? by: Eighpryl_AB 1 week ago
  • What to expect from medication by: GADmeetsADHD 1 week ago
  • ADHD effect on Marriage by: Anonymous (not verified) 1 week ago
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Recent Comments

  • It could be fixable.. by: FinallyCrushing... 1 day ago
  • Ahem. by: AdeleS6845 1 day ago
  • Hi. I see so much of my by: feeling hopeless 2 days ago
  • He had a major problem by: LahLah 2 days ago
  • Generalizing by: LahLah 2 days ago
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Seminars & Groups

Learn from our experts

ADHD-impacted relationships are not like other relationships and often struggle. Melissa Orlov, “one of the foremost authorities on ADHD and relationships in the world,” offers an outstanding 8-week phone seminar designed specifically to help couples impacted by ADHD learn to thrive. Our experts also offer self-study courses and coaching support groups for non-ADHD partners, ADHD partners, and for couples. Let us help you on your journey to re-find your love.

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Counseling

With Melissa Orlov

Couples seeking help with the behaviors ADHD encourages in their relationship can work with Melissa Orlov by phone or Skype.

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Books & Resources

Curated for usefulness

Our goal is to help you learn what you need to know to create the loving, healthy relationship you seek. In this section you’ll find the best books for various issues couples impacted by ADHD often face, as well as video interviews, articles and research.

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ADHD Treatment

It's not just about meds

Here’s the good news – research suggests 50-80% of adults with ADHD can significantly improve, or even ‘normalize,’ their symptom management if they create a good ADHD treatment plan. This section provides what you need to know to create an optimized treatment plan for the ADHD partner. Hint – it’s definitely not just about meds.

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For Therapists

Training & more

This section is for counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help them improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

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In Focus

Topics In Depth

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  • 13 Apps to Help Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
  • 8 Tips for Dealing with ADHD Partner Clutter and Hoarding
  • 9 Reasons Porn Hurts
  • Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • 5 Tips for Ridding Your Relationship of That 'Tone' of Voice
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • ADHD and Household Chores
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  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • 13 Apps to Help Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • 9 Reasons Porn Hurts
  • Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered
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  • Empathy and ADHD
  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • 13 Apps to Help Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered
  • 9 Reasons Porn Hurts
  • 8 Tips for Dealing with ADHD Partner Clutter and Hoarding
  • Six Signs that ADHD May Be Part of Your Marriage
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • 9 Reasons Porn Hurts
  • Extreme Emotions and ADHD
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • Not Getting Enough Sex in Your ADHD Marriage?
  • Six Signs that ADHD May Be Part of Your Marriage
  • Is ADHD Impacting My Relationship? Your Questions Answered

Popular forum topics in the last ...

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  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • New to This Site and an ADHD Relationship (engaged)
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • How Adderall affects relationships
  • So now what?
  • Anyone experienced these with ADHD spouse? Just so tired.
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • My wife hates me. I feel hopeless and depressed. I don't know what to do...
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • New to This Site and an ADHD Relationship (engaged)
  • So now what?
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • How Adderall affects relationships
  • My wife hates me. I feel hopeless and depressed. I don't know what to do...
  • Anyone experienced these with ADHD spouse? Just so tired.
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • My wife hates me. I feel hopeless and depressed. I don't know what to do...
  • How Adderall affects relationships
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • Anyone experienced these with ADHD spouse? Just so tired.
  • Hello and help... Non ADHD Partner.. I am SO tired
  • Feel like my husband is financially ruining me.
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • My wife hates me. I feel hopeless and depressed. I don't know what to do...
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • Anyone experienced these with ADHD spouse? Just so tired.
  • How Adderall affects relationships
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • Feel like my husband is financially ruining me.
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