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Welcome to "ADHD & Marriage"

Helping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Melissa Orlov and Dr. Ned Hallowell blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?

Blogs & Tips

Insights and inspiration

What does it take for couples to move beyond ADHD and negative responses to ADHD? Our blogs help you find out. With a balanced, respectful approach, we provide the information, ideas and inspiration both partners need.

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Recent blog posts

  • My Partner Doesn't Reach Out To Connect

    Your partner may not seem curious about you, but that doesn't mean you can't still connect.

  • Is CBD Oil a Good Treatment for ADHD?

    Many are looking for non-medicinal ways to manage ADHD, so I get questions about CBD oil all the time.  While there are research-proven treatments for ADHD that don't involved medications, CBD oil isn't one of them.  ADDitude Magazine just updated a r

  • The Joys of (Sometimes) Living in the Moment

    When it comes to living in the present moment, people with ADHD are to be envied.  This is how most of them live – often to the exclusion of planning for the future or (sometimes) remembering well the past.

    A writer for ADDitude, Emily Chen, has described living in the moment (with ADHD) and her heart, mind, and body as cats. She explains how sometimes they’re all super excited, playfully pouncing here and there in pursuit of prey. During those times, she feels invincible — like anything is possible. 

  • "My Partner Is Mad Because..."

    It's not just relationships with ADHD - these hilarious tweets show the side of marriage that you just have to laugh at...

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Community

Share questions & ideas

Living with ADHD can be tough, whether you have it, or are married to it. Share your questions, your confusion, your pain, and your experiences with others who face the same sorts of issues you do. You are not alone!

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Recent forum posts (all topics)

  • Looking for a success story by: Ryaninolywa 3 days ago
  • Feeling hopeless by: Struggling here 4 days ago
  • Open letter about what I've Experienced, learned, and heard.... by: c ur self 6 days ago
  • I suspect my partner has ADHD, how to speak to him about it? by: nadia313 1 week ago
  • Help! I think after 17 years I’m over it! by: soukey1107 2 weeks ago
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Recent Comments

  • Hello Ryan by: c ur self 1 min ago
  • Sometimes I have a success story, sometimes I don't by: Dagmar 2 days ago
  • Not alone by: J.W. 3 days ago
  • This is so real " fixing an by: Nita Nagdwate 3 days ago
  • This thread is a good find. by: curran 3 days ago
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Seminars & Groups

Learn from our experts

ADHD-impacted relationships are not like other relationships and often struggle. Melissa Orlov, “one of the foremost authorities on ADHD and relationships in the world,” offers an outstanding 8-week phone seminar designed specifically to help couples impacted by ADHD learn to thrive. Our experts also offer self-study courses and coaching support groups for non-ADHD partners, ADHD partners, and for couples. Let us help you on your journey to re-find your love.

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Counseling

With Melissa Orlov

Couples seeking help with the behaviors ADHD encourages in their relationship can work with Melissa Orlov by phone or Skype.

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Books & Resources

Curated for usefulness

Our goal is to help you learn what you need to know to create the loving, healthy relationship you seek. In this section you’ll find the best books for various issues couples impacted by ADHD often face, as well as video interviews, articles and research.

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ADHD Treatment

It's not just about meds

Here’s the good news – research suggests 50-80% of adults with ADHD can significantly improve, or even ‘normalize,’ their symptom management if they create a good ADHD treatment plan. This section provides what you need to know to create an optimized treatment plan for the ADHD partner. Hint – it’s definitely not just about meds.

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Training & more

This section is for counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help them improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

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In Focus

Topics In Depth

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ADHD Couples Stories

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  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?
  • What Does a Good Relationship Look Like When One Partner has ADHD?
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • "My Partner Is Mad Because..."
  • The Care and Feeding of a Non-ADD Spouse
  • My Partner Doesn't Reach Out To Connect
  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?
  • "My Partner Is Mad Because..."
  • My Partner Doesn't Reach Out To Connect
  • ADHD Marriages: Lowering Expectations vs. Improving Them
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • Respect and Personal Boundaries in ADHD Relationships
  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?
  • The Care and Feeding of a Non-ADD Spouse
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • "My Partner Is Mad Because..."
  • My Partner Doesn't Reach Out To Connect
  • ADHD Marriages: Lowering Expectations vs. Improving Them
  • For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters
  • Can ADHD Cause Narcissism?
  • Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna
  • How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?
  • 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
  • What Does a Good Relationship Look Like When One Partner has ADHD?
  • Empathy and ADHD
  • The Cuddle Rule
  • Finding the Right Partner When You Have ADHD
  • The Care and Feeding of a Non-ADD Spouse

Popular forum topics in the last ...

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  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • How can you tell if someone with ADHD loves you?
  • Feeling hopeless
  • Feel like my husband is financially ruining me.
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • Low testosterone ADHD and Adderall
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • Feeling hopeless
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • Open letter about what I've Experienced, learned, and heard....
  • Low testosterone ADHD and Adderall
  • I suspect my partner has ADHD, how to speak to him about it?
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • Feel like my husband is financially ruining me.
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • Low testosterone ADHD and Adderall
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • How Adderall affects relationships
  • Morning anger
  • Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!
  • What is it with leaving drawers and cabinets open??!!!
  • My experience with stimulant meds including Acne..!
  • Low testosterone ADHD and Adderall
  • What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?
  • Feel like my husband is financially ruining me.
  • His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't
  • Angry when I ask simple questions
  • Letter to my husband: I have reached the end.
  • How Adderall affects relationships
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