Conflicts Around Household Tasks

Want to Have More Sex? Do the Dishes!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/17/2018.

Over 15 years ago, when I was feeling unhappy in my relationship, my husband asked me what the chore he should take over.  To his surprise, I said ‘do the dishes!!!’  Turns out, I’m not the only one who feels this way. Sharing dish duties turns out to be really important to a whole lot of women.

ADHD Partners and Time - Being Late Isn't Just About Time Management

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/15/2017.

Having a partner who says he loves you often be late sends confusing signals.  Learning more can help.

Tips for Becoming Independent of Parent/Child Dynamics

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/31/2017.

Parent/Child is hard to get out of, but you must do so to thrive.  These tips can help you begin.

Help! My House Looks Like a Hurricane Went Through!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/05/2017.

You don't have to have stuff everywhere just because one or more of you has ADHD!

Why it's Important to Explain Your Anxiety

Submitted by Katie in ADHDland on 05/01/2017.

About 50 percent of adults with ADHD suffer from an anxiety disorder. Here's the story of how Katie came to grips with hers. 

What's the Difference Between Reminding and Nagging?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/09/2014.

When is it nagging and when is it reminding?  For non-ADHD partners, it can be hard to figure out whether - or how - to remind a partner of something that needs to get done.  Here are some ideas about where to draw the line.

A Quick Guide to Taming ADHD Clutter at Home

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 03/13/2014.

Coming home to an ADHD partner's mess can raise the stress levels at home, encourage long-term resentment, and ruin your sex life.  Here's how to clear up the clutter fast.

Time Cover Story Misses ADHD Cohort

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/07/2011.

The August 8th cover story of Time Magazine was entitled "Chore Wars" with the subhead "Let it go.  Make peace.  Men and women, it turns out, work the same amount."  But like divorce statistics that are much more illuminating when parsed by cohort (ex: couples who married young are more likely to divorce than those with college degrees who married later) so, too, are chore war statistics.

ADHD & Marriage: When Doing "Well Enough" Can Help

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/03/2010.

What happens when an ADHD partner takes responsibility for ADHD issues, but still struggles to make things go smoothly?  Here's a good example of the process that couples go through to find a balance that can work for them.

ADHD Partners - Driving Without Driving Each Other Crazy

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 12/02/2009.

It is with some humor that I say that a very sensitive area of conflict for many couples is driving.  Most commonly, the conflict centers around the poor driving habits of an ADHD spouse (and why they can't/won't change them) and who is going to drive when.  There is more here than meets the eye, though, so I thought I would explore it a bit.  If you have conflicts over driving, read on!

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