Conflicts Around Household Tasks

Advice to Dual-ADHD Couple Struggling with Chores

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/19/2023.

The question:

“Both my husband and I have ADHD, it is so hard to maintain the house and have fun together and deal with work. I end up being the one who does most of the planning, maintenance of the house and dog, and I also have a demanding job.  How do we work to have a more balanced life where I’m not so burnt out all the time and mentally fatigued?”

13 Apps to Help Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/15/2022.

I'm often asked what technology can help with some of the basic elements of better managing life when ADHD is a factor.  Here are some high quality, easy, and often free apps and other technologies that couples report have helped their progress towards a calmer and happier life together.

8 Tips for Dealing with ADHD Partner Clutter and Hoarding

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 03/28/2022.

Many adults with ADHD have tendencies towards hoarding behaviors and have trouble both keeping things cleaned up and tossing them out.  It can drive their partner's crazy and cause a lot of conflict.  What's going on, and what can you do?

Help! I Need a Break!!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/10/2020.

Closed childcare and schools are putting huge stress on parents.  Exhausted couples are pushed to their very limits.  9 tips for how to manage better during difficult times.

How to Get Those Back Taxes Done if One of You Has ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/13/2019.

Taxes are the ultimate in BORING, and also take lots of organizational effort.  This means they are not easy for many with ADHD to tackle.  Here are some tips for tackling the backlog…and being on time in the future.

 

Want to Have More Sex? Do the Dishes!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/17/2018.

Over 15 years ago, when I was feeling unhappy in my relationship, my husband asked me what the chore he should take over.  To his surprise, I said ‘do the dishes!!!’  Turns out, I’m not the only one who feels this way. Sharing dish duties turns out to be really important to a whole lot of women.

ADHD Partners and Time - Being Late Isn't Just About Time Management

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/15/2017.

Having a partner who says he loves you often be late sends confusing signals.  Learning more can help.

Tips for Becoming Independent of Parent/Child Dynamics

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/31/2017.

Parent/Child is hard to get out of, but you must do so to thrive.  These tips can help you begin.

Help! My House Looks Like a Hurricane Went Through!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/05/2017.

You don't have to have stuff everywhere just because one or more of you has ADHD!

Why it's Important to Explain Your Anxiety

Submitted by Katie in ADHDland on 05/01/2017.

About 50 percent of adults with ADHD suffer from an anxiety disorder. Here's the story of how Katie came to grips with hers. 

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