ADHD & Marriage News - November 1, 2023
Quote of the Week
“He’s so smart he can seem slow."
-A client
So Smart
The ADHD brain is amazingly fast. And those who own one often have a ton of stuff pinballing around inside that brain. Housing many facts, without much of a sorting and organizing system, and a penchant for noticing anything interesting in the area, the ADHD brain is a lot to handle!
This client was speaking admiringly about his partner. What he meant was ‘there is so much going on in there that sorting through it takes time.’ The ADHD partner in this relationship has learned to take his time before speaking, and to allow some of those pinballing ideas to coalesce. Which can come off, sometimes, as being slow.
It’s a different way of being in the world. And to acknowledge its legitimacy – to name it productively – and to express admiration for your differences is a strong beginning to a healthy relationship.
Give me a person with too many good ideas any day!
RECOMMENDATIONS:
➤ ADHD Couples Palooza Nov. 10-12, 2023! Changing the world for ADHD Couples. My interview Friday, November 10, 2023: "Will this relationship ever get better?" Be sure to register.
➤ Executive Function Strategies to Externalize Time, Memory, Motivation - Nov. 9. ADDitude webinar with ADHD expert, Dr. Ari Tuckman.
Resources For those in relationships impacted by ADHD
SEMINARS, GROUPS:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? My highly acclaimed 9-session Zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group - Be part of a community exploring similar issues, successes and struggles and find new, effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
New: ADHD & Marriage Professional Training Program - an integrated team of experts dedicated to supporting the needs of couples and adults impacted by ADHD.
FREE RESOURCES:
How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD;
Downloadable chapters of my books;
A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
A large number of blog posts on various topics;
ADULT ADHD CAN HAVE A HUGE IMPACT ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
Question? Contact Melissa.
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