The ADHD brain is amazingly fast. And those who own one often have a ton of stuff pinballing around inside that brain. Housing many facts, without much of a sorting and organizing system, and a penchant for noticing anything interesting in the area, the ADHD brain is a lot to handle!
This client was speaking admiringly about his partner. What he meant was ‘there is so much going on in there that sorting through it takes time.’ The ADHD partner in this relationship has learned to take his time before speaking, and to allow some of those pinballing ideas to coalesce. Which can come off, sometimes, as being slow.
It’s a different way of being in the world. And to acknowledge its legitimacy – to name it productively – and to express admiration for your differences is a strong beginning to a healthy relationship.
Give me a person with too many good ideas any day!
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