The Life You Were Given

ADHD & Marriage News - March 4, 2020

Quote of the Week

“You don’t have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt.  You have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones you’re holding.”

-Cheryl Strayed

The Life You Were Given

Most people who have ADHD wish they didn’t.  That makes sense, as it definitely complicates your life, even if you learn to live well with it.

But the reality is that you DO have it, and so what now?  Strayed has exactly the right idea.  How do you play the hell out of your cards?

  • Learn all you can about your particular version ADHD.
  • Seek your strengths and find a job that fits those strengths
  • Surround yourself with people who are positive about you and support you
  • Be with a partner who gets you and appreciates you, even if the ADHD sometimes is a pain
  • Optimize your treatment for ADHD so that YOU are in control – NOT the ADHD

Some good resources to help you with doing this include:

  • My free treatment ebook, found on my home page.  Take the concepts, such as target symptoms, to your doctor
  • My couples seminar, which can help you and partner do better in your relationship…or, if you don’t have time for that, my books
  • May We Have Your Attention, Please? Is a new book by Laura MacNiven that helps you identify your strengths and befriend your ADHD


For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. can literally change your life! Find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD including free: Online treatment overview; Downloadable chapters of my books; A community forum with other couples facing similar issues; A large number of blog posts on various topics; Referrals.


Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The live session starts Fall 2020.

Support Tele-groups - Be part of a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship: Non ADHD Partner Support Tele-group and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group.

How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD - go to the home page for a free download about the best ways to manage ADHD.

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