“Julia Louis-Drefus: “Is there something you would go back and tell your 21 year-old self?”
Jane Fonda: “No is a complete sentence.”
- From Julia Louis-Dreyfus’ podcast, Wiser than Me
One of the benefits of age is wisdom – and I must say that it took me a very long time to learn this particular lesson.
How many women do I know who have trouble simply saying ‘no’ with no obligatory explanation, or without feeling guilt of some sort? For many, the idea that ‘no is a complete sentence’ is hard to learn. It was for me, though I have now figured this out and my life is better for it.
You have a right to say ‘no’ to anything you wish. Period. That said, if you do this all the time, it’s likely you are in a dictatorial position…and that may or may not be your desire.
Too many people are afraid to say no. Be kind and respectful – your partner deserves that simply because they are your partner. But do stand up for what you want in your life. The buck stops with you.
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