Melissa Orlov CV


A. B. cum laude, Harvard College

Phillips Exeter Academy

Work Experience

ADHD & Marriage Consulting, 2023 - present:  Founder, integrated consulting team specializing in working with couples impacted by ADHD.

Melissa Orlov LLC, 2007 - present:  Marriage consultant, specializing in couples impacted by ADHD. Founder,

Strategic Marketing Partners, 1995-2007:  President, marketing strategy and research consultancy

Cramer-Krasselt Advertising, 1989-1995:  Vice President; Account Supervisor, account management

Tatham-Euro RSCG Advertising, 1984-1989: Account Executive; Assistant Account Executive, account management

Publications, 2007 - present: Founder and lead contributor

May I Have Your Attention? at, 2010 - present:  Contributor

The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD, with co-author Nancie Kohlenberger, LMFT, 2014: Specialty Press

The Distracted Couple, contributing author with Larry Maucieri, PhD, and Jon Carlson, PsyD, EdD, 2013: Crown House

The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps, 2010: Specialty Press

Married to Distraction, contributing author with Edward Hallowell, M.D. and Sue George Hallowell, LICSW, 2010: Ballantine

Your Relationships, Columnist, 2008-2014:  ADDitude Magazine

Select Teaching - Professionals

PESI 2022 Professional Training SeriesRebuilding Trust in ADHD-Impacted Relationships, with Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST

CHADD/ADDA International Conference on ADHD, 2021:  Helping ADHD-Impacted Couples Navigate Boundary Issues, with Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST

CHADD/ADDA International Conference on ADHD, 2019:  Optimizing Treatment for Adult ADHD, with Ainslie Gray, M.D.

UKAAN World Conference, 2017:  Relationships and Adult ADHD - family, friends, partners and parenting

CHADD/ADDA International Conference on ADHD, Professionals 2016:  Therapeutic Strategies for Improving Intimacy in All Types of ADHD-Impacted Relationships

Amsterdam Institute for Couple and Family Therapy, 2015:  Therapeutic Interventions for Couples Impacted by ADHD

Conference of the Dutch Association of Marital and Family Therapy, 2015:  Effectively Counseling Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD

CHADD International Conference on ADHD, 2014: Therapeutic Responses to Relationship Hotspots (CE/CME) Professional Education Series, 2013: Tools to Help Couples Impacted by ADHD Thrive

Online, 2011-2012: The ADHD Effect on Couples, lead presenter with Edward Hallowell, M.D., Kevin Murphy, PhD., and Sue George Hallowell LICSW.  APA accredited.

In-clinic training for therapists, 2011-present: Helping Adult ADHD Clients Respond to Marriage Pressures

Sample Presentations - General Public

CHADD/ADDA International Conference on ADHD, 2022:  All About Boundaries and ADHD Relationship Success

CHADD/ADDA International Conference on ADHD, 2021:  How to Engage a Resistant Partner in Improving Your Relationship, with Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST 

CHADD/ADDA International Conference on ADHD, 2019:  Just Right:  Creating a Relationship That Meets the Needs of Both ADHD and Non-ADHD Partners

CHADD/ADDA International Conference on ADHD, 2017:  Diminishing Anger in ADHD-Impacted Relationships

CHADD International Conference on ADHD, 2016: Bridging the Communication Gap Between ADHD and Non-ADHD Partners and, separately,

ADDISS, UK, 2015:  Adult ADHD, Relationships, and Families

CHADD International Conference on ADHD, 2014:  Relationship Trouble? Multi-Modal Treatment for Your ADHD-Impacted Relationship

Virtual ADHD Conference Master Classes, 2013: Effective Communication for Couples Impacted by ADHD

CADDAC Annual Conference, 2012: Relationship Trouble?

ADDA Webinar Series, 2012 - 2017: Rebuilding Intimacy in ADHD Relationships and others

Select Expert Interviews on ADHD and Marriage

American Psychological Association Monitor; New York Times; CNN; Today; US News and World Report; CBS online; AOL; NHPR;


IndieFab Gold Medal, Psychology Book of the Year, 2014 for The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD.  Foreword Reviews

Benjamin Franklin Silver Medal, Psychology, 2014 for The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD.  IBPA

Finalist, Best Mental Health Book 2014 for The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD.  USA Book News

Gold Medal, Psychology Book of the Year, 2010 for The ADHD Effect on Marriage

Contact Information

Melissa Orlov

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