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  • by: JJamieson - 5 hours 53 min ago
    ditto
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  • by: Hysterical37 - 6 hours 35 min ago
    Mike Robbins, 'the power of authenticity' TEDxGreenBrookSchool
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  • by: JJamieson - 7 hours 20 min ago
    The book by this title by Don Miquel Ruiz has become my bible over the last 15 years.  If you haven't read it you might find it worth the read as it is a short and simple concept.  These are:  Don't Make Assumptions Don't take things Personally Do Your Best in Everything You Do Be Impeccable with Your Word The last one is by far the hardest one to achieve.....it's another way of wording or saying be "authentic" with your words which require you to be authentic in the first place.  Easier said than...
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  • by: Hysterical37 - 11 hours 16 min ago
    'The most important point in the video for me was not so much applying everything in it exactly to someone with ADHD directly as he was suggesting ( for someone with Asbergers)......but simply as a means to see how (we) may be different in some specific ways as a means to understand or make sense of things that may not makes sense otherwise' Everyone wants to be understood and valued for who they are, this level of acceptance is at the basic root of all relationships and applies whether you have ADHD or...
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  • by: Standing - 11 hours 25 min ago
    With all of my heart, I wish that we could pool our strength and resources and get together for one day of amnesia, someplace under the sun, with warm breezes and the sounds of the ocean. I pray that we will each make time today, by the grace of God,  to create such a place of sanctuary within our own hearts and simply rest there. I've read people who have a mantra which gets them through the tough times... things like, I will survive!  Taking back my power! All I have is, I am so sorry. I say it to the...
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  • by: CosmicJoke - 19 hours 30 min ago
    No one here has it easy, eh? Or simple? Sometimes just another human "getting" what we post means so much, doesn't it?  (Thank you for this site, Mellissa Orlov.) PS I have to laugh about so much of this. I find it in no way impedes crying at the same time. And the laughing reminds me of who I used to be, which gives me hope.
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  • by: Resigned2B - 19 hours 45 min ago
    Your hands are FULL! Bless your heart. I will keep you in my prayers.
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  • by: Rosered - 19 hours 46 min ago
    CosmicJoke, I hope you and your sons feel better soon. 
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  • by: CosmicJoke - 19 hours 54 min ago
    Sorry you're going through that pain, R2B. Here's hoping next year will find you in a better place. Not that this is a competition, but I spent the morning conferring by phone with my ADHD spouse (separated) about my ADHD son (recently flunked out of college and now diagnosed with depression). They are both playing out some version of The Odd Couple out in our country house. Son wouldn't get out of bed, went into that "catatonic- eyes open- but paralyzed" thing he does. Had to talk husband through about...
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  • by: Resigned2B - 20 hours 57 min ago
    Let's see, my husband and I had such a fight tonight that divorce and attorneys have been set up for Friday...
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  • by: CosmicJoke - 21 hours 48 min ago
    You can get through this day, non-adhd family members! What could possibly go wrong?
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  • by: Resigned2B - 1 day 24 min ago
      If you have a toddler I am guessing you are young. I don't know what the laws are in Canada but if you were in the US I would advise you to cut your losses and start again. If a divorce court happens to stick you with all the debt and lets him off scott-free, then file bankruptcy and start to rebuild your credit alone. It won't be easy but you can do it! Dave Ramsey was a millionaire at 27 and had to file bankruptcy because of poor decisions. He has made it back as a millionaire again and counsels...
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  • by: dweeb - 1 day 48 min ago
    Standing, I just love your insight. I read a thread between you and I to a friend and we both shared a good cry! You're just amazing. Thank you for your hugs. Thank you! I don't know where I'd be without this group! I'd be curious for your insight on my reply to Resigned above.    Take care,  a
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  • by: dweeb - 1 day 50 min ago
    Resigned, it is a rather awful. I know the right thing to do is move on, but financially the best thing to do is stay. All the loans are in my name and his credit is too terrible to take on his half of the loan. Also I don't trust him enough to pay me should we separate. I'm scared to be left with a toddler and $37k worth of debt. How will I manage that?  This is both mine and my husbands first marriage. I certainly don't want to be the only one accommodating, since he's willing to be held accountable for...
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  • by: Resigned2B - 1 day 1 hour ago
    Oh it sounds just awful. Has he been divorced before? Sometimes it takes at least one, or more marriages lost for ADDers to realize it is them. I'm not sure that will do you any good at this point. If he continues to think he has nothing to change then, I'm afraid that you will have to accommodate he ego. I don't recommend that because I know what that will turn your life into.  I'm a hard time myself with my husband of nearly 31 years. My option to leave him at this point in my life is to live under a...
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  • by: dweeb - 1 day 4 hours ago
    I couldn't figure out why you said Thanksgiving!!  We celebrated a month ago (Canadian!) yes, Happy Thanksgiving to you all!  But yes, so close to Christmas and so incredibly selfish.  I'd be hard pressed to say he has someone on the side, he's not the type, and can't cover his tracks at all.  What he does have coming up however, is (on top of his current good salary) an influx in salary since he's in snow removal, and this is his first year in it.  From what his coworkers tell him, he'll be clearing an...
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  • by: Standing - 1 day 5 hours ago
    Big hugs to you. I know. I love my husband, too. I only know that he must choose for himself.
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  • by: JJamieson - 1 day 8 hours ago
    when I read your post on fear.  It did seem in context to what you were saying.  And yes, the young man was so endearing at the end when he was talking about the price of the video's...it was one of my favorite parts:)  By the way, I love watching TED.....so much there that sums up my personal feeling about the world.  I will have to look up the one you mentioned on authenticity. The most important point in the video for me was not so much applying everything in it exactly to someone with ADHD directly as...
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  • by: Resigned2B - 1 day 8 hours ago
    Right before Thanksgiving he drops this on you. How typically unbelievably selfish. I have to ask, dies he have someone on the side. ADHDers generally don't leave without safe shelter with someone else. They simply need that continuous thrill. I'm so sorry because I'm sure you do love him. To be honest? Get rid of him while you still can. There are many men out there who would NEVER think of treating you like this!
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  • by: dweeb - 1 day 8 hours ago
    Over the weekend my husband asked to separate from me and my daughter (his step-daughter since she was 2 weeks old). I realized that I was so hung up and focused on him that I neglected everything about myself.  I love what jennalemon said, a sacrificial lamb..... I resent it so much, but I also love him so much!
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