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  • by: mandi k - 20 min 46 sec ago
    I agree. This is the first post I have made for a really long time because I just got sick of everyone saying to accept it, get help, make allowances, etc. What I have recently been made aware of, and I know it has been referred to on this forum elsewhere, is that many adhd'ers have other issues that complicate the matter and make treatment/help confusing and challenging. I'm the non, my husband is the adhd one. Our psychologist recently declared that he believes my husband not only has adhd, but also is...
    >>> on Blog entry - Dating a Person with ADHD - Do I Continue?

  • by: Standing - 2 hours 30 min ago
    I am relieved for you. And i think that you have every reason to be proud of yourself for withstanding so well. God is good!
    >>> on Forum topic - Six weeks with husband gone. What I'm learning.

  • by: c ur self - 2 hours 39 min ago
    I wish you well...I became a widower at 50, after a 30 year marriage...I think you will be fine!...the only suggestion I have is to be patient and content with your own company, which women usually do much better than us males;)...I had a sweet wife....And after 30 year's of that closeness...Married at age 20...I missed it...My two children were happily married...And these walls didn't talk much...Ha Ha...So, i just got a little impatient with being alone...Probably more of a man thing...Blessings!
    >>> on Forum topic - Six weeks with husband gone. What I'm learning.

  • by: at_the_crossroa... - 3 hours 13 sec ago
    ok, Harmony, I appreciate your encouragement and I will put the text to the psychopathfree site.   It will take a while to remove all too specific personal information.   I am already blogging, but for the purpose to find a new partner, so it is more about what kind of a relationship I am looking for and what kind of a person I am. As I thought it wise not to search a partner as a deeply hurt person licking my wounds, calling myself here crossroads is a different name from the one I am blogging under...
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  • by: at_the_crossroa... - 3 hours 1 min ago
    I signed in to Psychopath Free, called myself 'forwardbound', thought to just send you a private message but did not find any way to do it.    Should you write to me, I will reply. Editing my text may take a while.   Once it is done, I will tell here too how to find it.  Courage to all.    
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  • by: harmony - 3 hours 59 min ago
    I'm on PF.com a lot and I can't wait to see you post there.  My name there is sob.  Look me up!   I love your blog idea about using it to attract a partner.  Wow!  what a great idea, that HAS to beat the dating sites.  I've never visited a dating site but I always hear about how awful they can be.  The blog is a great way to truly show who you are.  I might try that one day but for now I'm to paranoid that I would hook up with yet another narcopath.  I have a ways to go :) See ya!
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  • by: Rosered - 5 hours 18 min ago
    I'm still married but my husband and I live apart.  Except for the legalities, I feel like a divorced person and single mom.  It's not bad, but communication is still a huge issue.
    >>> on Forum topic - Six weeks with husband gone. What I'm learning.

  • by: WornOutMB - 5 hours 24 min ago
    Well, there has not been a whole lot that hasn't been difficult in the last 29 years.  I do believe, as you say, I will come out better on the other side of the divorce.
    >>> on Forum topic - Six weeks with husband gone. What I'm learning.

  • by: harmony - 5 hours 44 min ago
    Yes, Yes and Yes again!!!  My opinion is that your 'post mortem' relationship story would be very helpful.  There are many, many, many relationships such as ours that (as we all know) can be very hard to grasp an understanding of and to hear personal stories makes it real, brings context to the situation.  What I know is that these relationships can be at various levels in the healing process and the information from your experience could actually help someone get out of a rut through to understanding.  It...
    >>> on Forum topic - Could ADD Trigger or Cause COMORBID NARCISSISM?

  • by: at_the_crossroa... - 6 hours 5 min ago
    English is also not my native language.   Of course, early attachment problems can have devastating consequences.  But I doubt that this would explain my ex's troubles.   He grew up with both of his parents in a seemingly average middle class family.  His parents still seemed to be a happy or at least content couple, when I met them a few times at their age of about 85.    Also his sister lives a life with none of his troubles if she has any at all.     
    >>> on Forum topic - Could ADD Trigger or Cause COMORBID NARCISSISM?

  • by: Tired-to-my-bones - 6 hours 10 min ago
    Agreed Curself. A good point and addition. I was assuming self awareness. And we all know where assumptions lead.........
    >>> on Forum topic - When I got to acceptance

  • by: Rosered - 6 hours 17 min ago
    I think the divorce process will be difficult (some communication with your husband probably will be necessary, and I know from experience that communicating about things such as a separation or divorce is extra hard for many people who already struggle with communication, such as our ADHD husbands), but I think you'll come out better on the other side.
    >>> on Forum topic - Six weeks with husband gone. What I'm learning.

  • by: WornOutMB - 6 hours 21 min ago
    My husband filed for divorce this week. I have retained an attorney. I do not want to be married to someone who wants to live with blinders on and puts blame on everyone else but himself.  29 years was long enough.  It's time to move on.  Once the details are ironed out I believe I will feel much better. I'm not yet 50. I hopefully have years ahead of me filled with peace and joy.  That's what I desire. I'm old enough to know that life won't always be smooth sailing, but calmer seas will be welcomed.
    >>> on Forum topic - Six weeks with husband gone. What I'm learning.

  • by: fempartner - 6 hours 27 min ago
    Hi everyone, and thanks for reply. English is my second language, so therefore please forgive if it is a little simple. I just want to say, that I am not an expert or anything, I am just talking from my own experience,  and what I have read. Your are right; we are all different, and one should not try to diagnose anyone unless you are an expert/trained in these things. But I just want to share my thought, since sharing information and discussing different angles can make us wiser on the subject. And I...
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  • by: c ur self - 6 hours 29 min ago
    You bring up a good point high tide...Why stay?   Here is why I stay...First for me to accurately relate here on this topic...I have to make one change (an addition if you will)...Be self-aware, accept, and manage... Without self-awareness, it makes it impossible to put yourself in someone else's shoes...I'll want Grace and forgiveness, put I will expect them to keep the Rules... Now I've fixed that to better make me understand what it takes for two to be one... Convictions cause me to stay...If I had...
    >>> on Forum topic - When I got to acceptance

  • by: jackrungh - 6 hours 53 min ago
    The notion of nothing major being wrong from the outside really resonates with me. Is it odd that I'm the ADD partner, and I'm the one who feels most acutely the pain of our unhappy marriage? In this I'm speaking not about anything happening or any topical issues in a relationship, but rather the pain you feel as a result of being so profoundly disconnected. There is no bonding, no feeling of sharing yourself and being understood. It's like a void. No spark. Maybe fleeting glimmers from time to time but...
    >>> on Forum topic - what my bad relationship has done to me

  • by: at_the_crossroa... - 6 hours 59 min ago
    I just read the postings of 2013 and later.   Some of you have suffered much longer than I did.   My best wishes for your own healing process. From our first emails over an international matchmaking site until his final leaving, it only lasted 2.5 years.   It was intense and extreme, but my feeling of self-worth and self-confidence and my resisting and criticizing his behaviors drove him speedily off.  I am easily made to suffer but I am not suitable as a compliant victim.  With leniency and more female...
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  • by: JJamieson - 7 hours 6 min ago
    I completely understand in every respect and  to the point that I was offering....it's not the label that I was talking about but more who determines it?  Identifying core symptoms from published clinical descriptions is exactly what I was doing and exactly why I said what I said.  Way too complex and interwoven issues to cherry pick and try and narrow down that way.  Your chances of being wrong or even close to being accurate are astronomical.  If your talking about someone who is already diagnosed by a...
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  • by: Tired-to-my-bones - 7 hours 26 min ago
    One of the things that I have learned over time is that I can think whatever I like. I am safe inside my own head. In this safe space I can examine the ideas of 'not liking', 'not respecting', my overwhelming sadness,anger and frustration ......you can add to list....   It's a place where I can try things on, try them out. I am not burdened by thoughts that this makes me a bad person. Because I'm not. It's a place where I can be as honest as I am able. The ability to reflect and learn what is ours to own,...
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  • by: JJamieson - 7 hours 44 min ago
    to re-return to say something important before I stop reading here for a while.  And yes...thanks for responding since I'm sort of invested with you guys.  Iied a little about not coming back completely only that I know myself well enough to sneak a peak now and then to see how you're doing even if I don't respond.  think of me as your guardian angel waiting in the wings. ha ha.  but it I don't stop writing I'll never stop!lol So there may be other doors.  I already know there are so I shouldn't commit to...
    >>> on Forum topic - The Boy Who Cried Wolf....and What to Do About?

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