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  • by: lulu18 - 1 hour 11 min ago
    it is hard for some people to understand what life is like when you have a child or children with disabilities and a spouse with disabilities. Harsh as it sounds, our spouses are grown ups and need to take care of themselves. Children need to be protected simply because they are children. If an adult with ADHD chooses to act like a child, then it is by choice. It does not entitle them to the same protection that a child needs. There are attorneys out there who specialize in divorce with special needs...
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  • by: s00manyquestions - 2 hours 25 min ago
    <<<< Lets Say >>>> (you) are a professor @ Progressive Rebuilders for Thinking. (oh::::wow...I got totally lost in soo many starts and finishins of time and speace)  Ok...back..  so..PRT...winner for looking top of gold on papper. ....HHEEYYYY....OGM...I really Am not at peace not feeling love and exxcitement of situataion.  sure i should but no.,  pure saddness and hollow sinking into a darker void beyound the Vvv...vv. Wow:  just totally caught myself from not doing the doomed...
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  • by: s00manyquestions - 2 hours 54 min ago
    I dont really know what u all are talking about but I do Know:  Any time you feel scared in a relationship..it's somethings wrong!!As for all this talk about him next doow with all porn..sexx...xxxxx..$$Ohh I know:  I (too) was in a relationship who struggled orifically w porn add.).  All and all..to me:  it sounds like how ever you are discribing and living your life sounds exhausing.  You take are of You.  .  Safety is always first in mind...His disrespect and degrading poision that constantly reminded...
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  • by: JJamieson - 3 hours 1 min ago
    First....I wanted to comment on something you said in another post ( somewhere?) that really registered with me.....about thinking that you may not be cut out to be in a relationship or not being able to find someone that will fit with you....being doomed so to speak to repeat the same thing you've done before so maybe you'd be better off being single and alone?  I'm paraphrasing but I'm also filling in with my own words....the same one's I have felt and maybe only to a lesser degree now...but still do all...
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  • by: c ur self - 3 hours 51 min ago
    Especially this statement....(Love for yourself, because you deserve to not be held hostage by anger and pain.)  Because in the reality of living life, the blessing of forgiveness is for the one doing the forgiving...
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  • by: jenna-nonADHD - 3 hours 57 min ago
    You mentioned that you shut out your wife when she tried to address some issues.  I'm in a situation where my boyfriend's ADHD was becoming apparent, although at the time, I did not understand that ADHD meant so much more than just being hyper and inattentive. He has ADHD and depression (he never admitted it to me, but I found old news articles about crimes he committed in his 20s... where he was given a court ordered psych eval and a 90 day stint in a live-in anger management rehab). He seemed happy the...
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  • by: hever - 9 hours 12 min ago
    As I'm writing this my husband is watching porn in the lounge talking to himself hoping I think he's booking an escort.he said he's doing this because I (in his head only)am seeing men for sex even though I am with him 24/7. I can't invest anymore of my life in this relationship as I am exhausted, and getting scared .has I think he will find out I'm cheating on him and have been for a while.
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  • by: AlmaVera - 9 hours 41 min ago
    This does make a lot of sense. It also confirms what I was thinking in terms of trying to find a new pdoc. As I posted before in the Diagnosis and Treatment sub-forum, he is totally a 'pill guy,' and doesn't believe in things like vitamins or supplements to help with symptoms. As I seem to be more med-sensitive since my concussion, that is a route I want to explore. I also want someone who seems to actually know something about adult ADHD. May be tough to find here, but I'll start looking. Your...
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  • by: JJamieson - 10 hours 53 min ago
    I just had a visual image metaphor.........like when you are trying to merge onto the freeway in heavy traffic....too fast or too slow always causes problems for everyone else around you......  Going with the flow and meshing into everyone else always seems to work pretty well.  lol   J
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  • by: JJamieson - 11 hours 1 min ago
    Learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them.  Reread your post and you will see them written out in plain English.  But here's the deal....that's like step one.  These are the things that she see's which are probably the things you need to focus on first and foremost otherwise....you aren't doing anything for her on her side of things.  I will say this another way.  Change your focus to her and what her needs are not to how to fix what you've already done and quit focusing on what your needs are at...
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  • by: Matt51 - 12 hours 15 min ago
    Catherine10, I know exactly what you are going through with your husband as the same thing is going on between my wife an myself. I am the one with the ADHD and other issues that i have that have plagued my marriage. My wife is the most caring and loving person in the world to me and i just continue to shut her out, not out of intention but that is just the way we are wired. My wife and I have been together for 10 years now and married for 3 1/12 now and in the beginning life was great we were head over...
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  • by: JJamieson - 12 hours 15 min ago
    You and I share this in common. . "I have long been one of those classic creative-into-all-kinds-of-hobbies-and-DIY-things person.  Would always be working on some kind of craft or project after working all day at my job." side note:  this is where connection with spouses can be problematic for me...a problem area unless the person I'm with is not (more or less) like this too. Anyway...jack of all trades, creative, productive etc... have all been used to describe me. Yes.  Even when I was very little I...
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  • by: c ur self - 13 hours 31 min ago
    My children just laugh and shake their head...When my brother and I are interacting in conversation it's so intense...they say many times from a distance it looks and sounds like we are about to fight...And we are both saying the same things just in different ways.....LOL.... I love KISS...Now if I could only remember it....:)....I've worked tremendously hard on listening....But, the detail thing...The way my mind works...Make sure there is no misunderstanding...So, when someone wife, children seem weary...
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  • by: JJamieson - 14 hours 35 min ago
    Your statement...." I was a high performer and very hard worker on my job..... I could trouble shoot most things quickly just by looking at it...But, I had trouble in meetings....I've always been terrible at focusing on other's talk time...I've been interruptive in meetings to the point, my boss would just say "hold it just a minute"...I've heard this statement all my life..." I could easily apply to myself except....changing "interruptive" to "verbose".........no surprise eh?  I have to remind myself...
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  • by: AlmaVera - 22 hours 46 min ago
    I was looking up the Adaptogen Adrenal Support, and this article came up in the Google search results.  Adaptogenic Herbs In Adrenal Fatigue I'm not commenting on the writer's viewpoint on whether they work in certain stages of adrenal fatigue, but the descriptions of a couple herbs caught my eye (emphasis mine): "Ashwaganda – sometimes referred to as Indian ginseng, the herb provides a range of effects that are largely comparable to Siberian ginseng, although the plants are not in any way related....
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  • by: AlmaVera - 23 hours 16 min ago
    Well, my pdoc originally gave me Adderall because of trouble I was having with concentration, memory, etc., during a time of super stress in my life. Looking at it now with all I'm reading about ADHD, esp how it often shows up in women, I was exhibiting some pretty classic symptoms for it, but my doctor has never suggested it. So, it's just in learning about it on my own now that I'm putting together all kinds of things that have gone on since I was a kid and saying, "Whooooa, now it all makes sense!"  :p...
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  • by: c ur self - 1 day 1 hour ago
    I read your post on my iphone setting in the car before I went into to the church assembly this morning and it's dominated my thoughts ever since...It's now 5 pm and I'm going to make an attempt to respond...First let me say the reason it's dominated my thoughts is because of the love it took to make this effort... In order to keep from writing a book:), I'm going to do my best to help you understand me...My frame of reference....What I place importance on, and what I don't...Answer your questions, and...
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  • by: JJamieson - 1 day 4 hours ago
    You mentioned after you were on Adderall you lost interest in hobbies and activities.  I had this happen too which was also connected to a few other changes as well.  I'm curious about your thoughts on this as I have my own about this but I wanted to hear another person's experience first before I interjected my own.  Thx. One more thing to add into this discussion which reminded me of testing for other things.  My oldest sister was tested for metabolism in relation to a Thyroid deficiency that she has...
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  • by: AlmaVera - 1 day 5 hours ago
    Has anyone ever had their cortisol tested?  Years ago, I stumbled across a congenital disorder that caused the body to produce too little cortisol, and thought "this is me!"  My endocrinologist did one of those 24-hour cortisol tests, and it came back normal (never saw numbers, so I don't know what the 'normal' range is), and that really puzzled me. The form of this adrenal thing that fit me mainly shows up around puberty (which was really early for me), which is also when I remember symptoms that...
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  • by: CosmicJoke - 1 day 6 hours ago
    It sounds like, in both our cases, the money weirdness isn't even about....money. My husband has complete access to our joint account. I'm his free financial manager and bookkeeper...and I never blink about his monthly expenditures, the meals out, etc. The reasons why our spouses act this way, don't really matter, do they? And yet...Something about the solace of magical thinking...? The afterglow of taking action, no matter how impulsive, because that's what husband's should do....? The need to undermine...
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