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This week has been a struggle. I am feeling constantly disappointed and ignored. I find little things daily that my ADHD wife didn't follow through on, or didn't listen to me about.
Does anyone have any suggestions to make things better (other than divorce)?
In person conversations get forgotten, lists and reminders ignored. Intimacy is non-existent. I'm struggling to see what the upside of this marriage is.
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my ex
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink...
shared this with me last year. After years of him putting glasses in old greasy dishwater in the sink at night, so they could ‘soak’, despite not needing to, and the glasses actually being thrifted vintage glasses that I loved, and me asking him again and again not to, because I then had to fish them out of greasy cold water before I could do anything else in kitchen in the morning, and it was messy and gross and extra unnecessary hassle.
But when he discovered this article, it was a Eureka moment for him; he finally got it. Didn’t matter how often I’d asked him; some man on the internet said it once and he paid attention.
I know I’m sounding flippant, but maybe, is there a way of harnessing this ability to pay attention to online stuff, social media, etc but not to a partner? Could you find a resource on the internet who’s saying what you need her to hear…?
Thank you for the article,
Thank you for the article, but I stopped reading when it claims that men behave like children. This is a pet peeve of mine. My father was useless when it came to anything other than his business (which also ultimately failed like his marriage). I have been driven my entire life to be as self-sufficient as possible, being a latchkey kid in the late early 90s reinforced it. I have always been involved in the household work and parenting my son. I am an actual responsible man - we exist! Shocking huh?
I'm sorry your ex sucked. Many men I know are the same way and I've never understood why women are in relationships with men that behave like children and can't take care of themselves. It's not the '50s anymore.
Sorry for my rant. :/
sorry yeah
It wasn’t the content of the article I meant, really - I think it’s obvious and annoying tbh. And when my ex shared it with me as a revellation I could have easily exploded with fury right there on the spot. What it was, was the way it seemed to make sense to my ex, because a man said it on the internet. His wife saying it in person - zero impact.
I agree with you - this way of figuring men is a damaging cliche. Awful partners come in all genders.