Have been trying online dating for a few days. Out of hundreds of men’s profiles I’ve found only one person attractive. He contacted me full of enthusiasm.
Then we’ve tried to arrange a first date. Yesterday I drove 15 miles to a place and time he’d suggested, just to find he’d cancelled on 1,5 hour’s notice because he was ’caught up in a neighboring town’ and wouldn’t make it.
Today he wanted to see me but we were both busy during the day. When I suggested 8 pm in his neighborhood he answered it was too late for him.
First I was annoyed. Then I started to suspect he was complicating things to delay the date on purpose, or was playing some game to test me.
And just now I drew a sharp breath thinking I’ve stumbled upon another ADHD person. Who is as sweet as can be probably, but can’t keep appointments because of time blindness, and whose Adderall wears off about seven pm, so can’t have a conversation at night.
Sometimes I feel my world is exclusively inhabited by neurodiverse people and it’s all I’ll ever know.
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Online dating
Ugh! He doesn't deserve another second of your time or headspace, Swedish!
I Agree with Melody
If he wanted it bad enough, he'd find a way to get there. End of story.
I’m seeing him today
He seems very sweet and anxious to meet up. I’m not sure I’ll like it. But guess one has to try things once.
Need to know if senses can be trusted, if you know what I mean?
Thank you for looking out for me. I’ll keep you posted.
Not for me
You were right! We met for coffee, he thought he could impress me and tried to control me a little. I told him after 15 minutes it didn’t work and he looked annoyed and left without saying goodbye.
Well, wiser for it. Thank you Melody and J.
You can do so much better
Good for you, Swedish!! You'll find someone a lot more respectful.