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and she said he had not made enough progress on his coursework. The deadline to have his final project graded and turned in is June 6 and he isn't anywhere close to finishing.
I know some things about you. Remember, we are intuitive. Because of who you are, you have a bright future. Your love for people is going to lift you out of this disappointment. Your best days are coming. That's for sure. You will see.
Rest. Be assured that you will not only get through this, the more you let go, the more astounded you will be as you place one foot in front of another and your life opens up in new and exciting ways
I will get through this. I've already survived hell so I will make it through. He and my brother are the only 2 people in my life that I count on when I'm going through hell so it sucks to have that now cut down to only one person who truly has my back. He is the one I go to first for comfort but this time I can't. So I will keep my chin up and carry on. Thanks again for the kind words. I always hope for the best but always expect the worst. Defense mechanism.
I am deeply disappointed in myself. All this time I thought you had perfect reading comprehension.
Let's try this again. PAY ATTENTION! Are you ready?
This is not about survival or squeaking by. This is not about gritting your teeth and enduring more agony.
I know certain things. Because you are love, loving, dedicated to and are all about love, hide and watch.
Rest. Unwind. Let go and simply observe your bright, new, cool future as it unfolds before your very eyes one step at a time. Your best days, the best times you've ever known, are right there, simply and simultaneously, as you move forward without cares or worries.
In one month, it will be 10 years since my now ex-husband was fired. In some ways, I'm surprised he lasted as long as he did at that job. It was a poor match for him. (Unfortunately, it was the last "normal" full-time job he held. His dad later hired him to be a caregiver, and he's still doing that now, but his dad insisted on paying him under the table, and that was one factor that contributed to our marriage ending.) I won't lie; the job loss was very stressful. Please be kind to yourself in this difficult time.
When we have spouse's who's lives are filled with drama... Simply because of their lack of discipline and responsibility...We must not try to bear the burden of what we can't effect in any way.....It's not ours!!!....When our spouses dump this kind of news on us....We must stay calm....Let it be their deal....Let you comments be kind, but, don't take it on yourself (enable)...." I hate that for you, I know you will do the right thing, and find another job"
It's a good possibility he already knew it wasn't going to go well when he went into the meeting....Most people know..LOL...People who want to excuse their irresponsibility, will always blame or act surprised...They may even be surprised, due to their faulty view of reality... (Don't even know what it truly means to be responsible and accountable)
Try to be calm, don't own it,..,Don't let it effect your emotions....You and me and many here can't say we don't know this kind of stuff is a high probability...So lets not self inflict pain on ourselves....That's our own denial if we do that.... We set here and right about the dysfunction of not even being able to trust own spouse's, in the simple tasks of life....So we should never be shocked.....He will find something else....It's just another one of those life lessons...The less you say the more he will have to own it....Irresponsible people love it when their spouse says to much....By bed time they will have it flipped, in order to make it someone else's fault...
Do what you have to do, to just count on you....You are loved!
unfortunately, i know failure all too well. I dreaded failure so much, I would purposely arrange it so I wouldn't have to face it on other's terms. Experiencing feelings of public humiliation can practically kill me.
I wonder how he felt as his mom looked on and heard his killers say, "come on down, boy, if you really think you are somebody! prove it!" even as he refused, while she screamed in agony for her baby boy.
How would you feel if you were a God/Man and knew you were becoming "THE WAY" for your Mother and for all who believed on you...To experience Eternal life in Paradise with you?? I don't know, but, I'm pretty sure it wasn't anything close to what I could imagine.....
I've been trying very hard to not offer any ideas or advice. It's very hard. I am a fixer. One good thing is that he went to see his therapist and she urged him to make an appt with his psychiatrist for an eval for depression and he is going next week.
That must have been an awful call to get and have to process. You had such kind words for me a few daus ago...i wish karma was a little more instant but it doesnt work that way i guess. I hope the two of you can learn something constructive from this.
clinical depression like he did when he was laid off in 2012. That was rough. Fortunately he has an appt with his psychiatrist next week for an eval for depression.
I got off topic. I apologize. My HP (higher power or God) has helped me in so many ways, I wish that everyone who is in need would find in him the same loving being/resource, but I know many are not into that kind of thing. I just want you to be well and happy and thriving whatever that takes.
How are you? Update us if you can. You are really special and are appreciated. You don't have to communicate anything per se. Just share whatever is on your heart and mind, if that might help.
i have little faith. i ride piggy back on the faith of others.
Someone showed me he loved me and it blew me away. still does. faith is not my strong suit, but trying to express the love HP has for us is what I do best.
:(
Submitted by 1Melody1 on
I am so sorry, Daizze. The hits just keep on comin'. :(
Thank you. I'm overwhelmed.
Submitted by daizzebelle on
Thank you. I'm overwhelmed.
daizzebelle . . . .
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
I feel badly for you and your husband. To have another stressor on your plate right now with all you have going, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Thanks so much
Submitted by daizzebelle on
It's been a crappy week month year...
I'm very sorry, daizzebelle.
Submitted by PoisonIvy on
I'm very sorry, daizzebelle. Do you know why?
He said that he was meeting with his boss for a review
Submitted by daizzebelle on
and she said he had not made enough progress on his coursework. The deadline to have his final project graded and turned in is June 6 and he isn't anywhere close to finishing.
The best is yet to come
Submitted by repeat that please on
I know some things about you. Remember, we are intuitive. Because of who you are, you have a bright future. Your love for people is going to lift you out of this disappointment. Your best days are coming. That's for sure. You will see.
Rest. Be assured that you will not only get through this, the more you let go, the more astounded you will be as you place one foot in front of another and your life opens up in new and exciting ways
Thanks so much rtp, very kind words
Submitted by daizzebelle on
I will get through this. I've already survived hell so I will make it through. He and my brother are the only 2 people in my life that I count on when I'm going through hell so it sucks to have that now cut down to only one person who truly has my back. He is the one I go to first for comfort but this time I can't. So I will keep my chin up and carry on. Thanks again for the kind words. I always hope for the best but always expect the worst. Defense mechanism.
strange
Submitted by repeat that please on
I am deeply disappointed in myself. All this time I thought you had perfect reading comprehension.
Let's try this again. PAY ATTENTION! Are you ready?
This is not about survival or squeaking by. This is not about gritting your teeth and enduring more agony.
I know certain things. Because you are love, loving, dedicated to and are all about love, hide and watch.
Rest. Unwind. Let go and simply observe your bright, new, cool future as it unfolds before your very eyes one step at a time. Your best days, the best times you've ever known, are right there, simply and simultaneously, as you move forward without cares or worries.
You will see. Hide and watch
Thanks rtp...my heart's desire is to run away
Submitted by daizzebelle on
all by myself...just grab my toothbrush and drive the hell away from here...but I am staying put...my girls need me
I am a homebody, I hate
Submitted by PoisonIvy on
I am a homebody, I hate traveling, I crave routine, but my marriage aroused in me a great desire to escape, too.
I can relate...I'm a homebody and
Submitted by daizzebelle on
an introvert...but when the stress gets to me I want to run
oh. i didn't mean you need to go anywehere
Submitted by repeat that please on
It is simply what is happening inside and around you right now. This is your new life.
Yes, I know that you meant a new life here...
Submitted by daizzebelle on
but right now I just want to escape. I am not going to run but I sure do want to.
In one month, it will be 10
Submitted by PoisonIvy on
In one month, it will be 10 years since my now ex-husband was fired. In some ways, I'm surprised he lasted as long as he did at that job. It was a poor match for him. (Unfortunately, it was the last "normal" full-time job he held. His dad later hired him to be a caregiver, and he's still doing that now, but his dad insisted on paying him under the table, and that was one factor that contributed to our marriage ending.) I won't lie; the job loss was very stressful. Please be kind to yourself in this difficult time.
Thanks so much PI
Submitted by daizzebelle on
I am trying to be gentle with myself even tho I feel really stressed. Talked with my therapist Friday & that was really helpful.
Don't miss out on this opportunity to show him it's his deal....
Submitted by c ur self on
When we have spouse's who's lives are filled with drama... Simply because of their lack of discipline and responsibility...We must not try to bear the burden of what we can't effect in any way.....It's not ours!!!....When our spouses dump this kind of news on us....We must stay calm....Let it be their deal....Let you comments be kind, but, don't take it on yourself (enable)...." I hate that for you, I know you will do the right thing, and find another job"
It's a good possibility he already knew it wasn't going to go well when he went into the meeting....Most people know..LOL...People who want to excuse their irresponsibility, will always blame or act surprised...They may even be surprised, due to their faulty view of reality... (Don't even know what it truly means to be responsible and accountable)
Try to be calm, don't own it,..,Don't let it effect your emotions....You and me and many here can't say we don't know this kind of stuff is a high probability...So lets not self inflict pain on ourselves....That's our own denial if we do that.... We set here and right about the dysfunction of not even being able to trust own spouse's, in the simple tasks of life....So we should never be shocked.....He will find something else....It's just another one of those life lessons...The less you say the more he will have to own it....Irresponsible people love it when their spouse says to much....By bed time they will have it flipped, in order to make it someone else's fault...
Do what you have to do, to just count on you....You are loved!
c
me
Submitted by repeat that please on
unfortunately, i know failure all too well. I dreaded failure so much, I would purposely arrange it so I wouldn't have to face it on other's terms. Experiencing feelings of public humiliation can practically kill me.
I wonder how he felt as his mom looked on and heard his killers say, "come on down, boy, if you really think you are somebody! prove it!" even as he refused, while she screamed in agony for her baby boy.
Sunday's a comin
Sunday's a comin
Sunday's a comin
Repeat....He was the eldest....
Submitted by c ur self on
And thankfully for us...That cross he refused to come down from, covers everyday, and every sin....
unbearable sorrow
Submitted by repeat that please on
I wonder how he felt as his mom looked on
how he felt
he felt
imagine!
How would you feel?
Submitted by c ur self on
How would you feel if you were a God/Man and knew you were becoming "THE WAY" for your Mother and for all who believed on you...To experience Eternal life in Paradise with you?? I don't know, but, I'm pretty sure it wasn't anything close to what I could imagine.....
Thank you C for the kind words.
Submitted by daizzebelle on
I've been trying very hard to not offer any ideas or advice. It's very hard. I am a fixer. One good thing is that he went to see his therapist and she urged him to make an appt with his psychiatrist for an eval for depression and he is going next week.
great
Submitted by repeat that please on
love it
Amen
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
Good advice, C.
Sorry to hear
Submitted by Feeling ADDefeated on
That must have been an awful call to get and have to process. You had such kind words for me a few daus ago...i wish karma was a little more instant but it doesnt work that way i guess. I hope the two of you can learn something constructive from this.
Thank you...I hope he will not spiral down into
Submitted by daizzebelle on
clinical depression like he did when he was laid off in 2012. That was rough. Fortunately he has an appt with his psychiatrist next week for an eval for depression.
And when he knew for certain
Submitted by repeat that please on
And when he knew for certain
Only drowning men could see him
He said "All men are sailors then
Until the sea shall free them"
But he himself was broken
Long before the sky would open
Forsaken, almost human
He sank beneath your wisdom like a stone
cohen
Sorry
Submitted by repeat that please on
I got off topic. I apologize. My HP (higher power or God) has helped me in so many ways, I wish that everyone who is in need would find in him the same loving being/resource, but I know many are not into that kind of thing. I just want you to be well and happy and thriving whatever that takes.
How are you? Update us if you can. You are really special and are appreciated. You don't have to communicate anything per se. Just share whatever is on your heart and mind, if that might help.
No worries, I am glad that your faith sustains you.
Submitted by daizzebelle on
I am ok. Stressed out but I am relieved that DH is going to see his psychiatrist next week.
a new beginning
Submitted by repeat that please on
Thanks so much...I think it is a good
Submitted by daizzebelle on
sign that he is reaching out for professional help. In the past he has been reluctant so I'm glad he is doing it now.
I agree that reaching out for
Submitted by PoisonIvy on
I agree that reaching out for professional help seems to be a good sign.
piggy back
Submitted by repeat that please on
i have little faith. i ride piggy back on the faith of others.
Someone showed me he loved me and it blew me away. still does. faith is not my strong suit, but trying to express the love HP has for us is what I do best.
I never knew anyone ever loved me