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ADHD & Marriage News - January 6, 2026

Quote of the Week

“There is no crime, absolutely none, that connote be condoned when ‘our’ side commits it.”

- George Orwell

Well, I might not agree completely with this statement as I think there are crimes that aren’t ever condonable. But when one is talking about behavior in a relationship, then I think that this statement holds true. Do we not tend to criticize our partner for being angry, curt or hurtful yet ‘understand it’ when we do similar things ourselves?

I certainly fell into this pattern. For years it wasn’t okay for my husband to treat me poorly, but his inconsistent behaviors ‘justified’ my criticisms and anger in return. This kept on until I realized that not only did I not like him very much, but I also didn’t like ME very much, either. It was time to set my own standards – and stick to them!

Partners do best when they conscientiously contribute their ‘best selves’ to their relationship and I challenge all with whom I work to look at their own behavior with an objective eye. Would they like to be with themselves if they were in the same room?

How about you? Are you contributing your ‘best self?” If not, look back to your most important values and ask yourself how you might do better. Your situation will likely improve.

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Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 14th) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

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ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

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