Sweat the Small Stuff

ADHD & Marriage News - March 4, 2026

Quote of the Week

“Love isn’t a perfect state of caring. It’s an active noun like ‘struggle.' "

- Fred Rogers

One of the more common ‘mistakes’ that couples make is that they forget to actively nurture their connections. As Rogers points out – sustained love doesn’t just ‘happen’ – you really have to work at it. And ‘struggle’ is just the right word to choose…because sometimes it really IS a struggle! Your partner pulls some boneheaded move and you have to look inside yourself to find patience or empathy with her.

Part of that struggle is finding the balance between letting things go and focusing enough attention on the most important items so that both of you feel heard and attended to. Many older couples will tell you that they finally figured out that ‘sweating the small stuff’ wasn’t a great approach…but sitting down, when it’s really important, and learning how to gently but firmly speak your mind is.

We don’t land in a relationship knowing how to create that balance. That’s all part of the struggle – taming your baser instincts to find ways to accommodate the needs you both have so that you both feel cared for.

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No matter where you are in the world.... you can take Melissa's life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar.

Given the current economic climate, we know that couples affected by ADHD may be feeling even more strain—emotionally, relationally, and financially. To help make support more accessible, we’re offering a $30 discount for couples who register for our upcoming Live ADHD & Marriage Couples Seminar by February 28.

Mastering Learning Conversations Thursday, Mar 5, 2026
7-8:30pm EST

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This Free live session is for couples navigating communication challenges in ADHD-impacted relationships — this tool can really help couples in difficult moments.

You’ll learn:

What a “learning conversation” is and how it helps
What makes ADHD-related communication loops so sticky — and how to shift them with care
How ADHD & Marriage can continue to support your relationship – with great bonuses when you attend live!

NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups

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Spring, 2026 ADHD Partner Support Group:
Thursdays at 4:30pm Eastern Time - Led by Ashley Paradise
Seven Thursdays evenings: March 26, April 2, 9, 16, 23, 30, May 7

There can be a lot to work through when your partner has ADHD. Join a community exploring similar issues, learn from each other's successes & struggles and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. Understand how ADHD impacts emotional connections, communication, and day-to-day relationship dynamics. Each Zoom session focuses on member chosen topics for in-depth exploration and actionable strategies.

Couples Support Group - Couples in Connection

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Spring 2026 group:

Dates: 7 Wednesday evenings: April 8, 15, 22, 29, May 6, 13, 20
Time: 6:00 - 7:30 pm Eastern Time

True connection doesn’t mean avoiding discomfort — it means learning how to stay present through it. Join Molly Schoenhoff and Jason Weber — partners in both life and work, and an ADHD couple themselves — for a unique, small-group experience designed for 5 couples ready to grow together.

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Included: Office Hours. Weekly Action Tips. Workshops. Book Club. Community Discussion Forum. Unlimited Video Replays. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!

Free Learning Conversations Masterclass — March 5, 2026, 7:00–8:30 PM ET register here.

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open) Starts March 25. Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Registration Open) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

Free Resources:

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