Connection

ADHD & Marriage News - July 24, 2025

Quote of the Week

“Deep connection is not based on shared preferences of what you like and enjoy. Rather, it’s based on shared values. Common interests often attract people, but common values sustain relationship."

- Steven Stosny

‘Finding common ground’ is a tried and true strategy to start negotiating your differences. Identifying the common ground of your shared values and aligning your relationship with those values is THE strategy for nurturing a relationship.

Sometimes, when working with individuals or couples to help them get back to feeling more like themselves I ask this question, ‘Who were you when you liked yourself the most?’ This question tends to point to a time when you/they were living in a way most closely aligned with their values.

Who were you when you liked yourself the most?
What were your qualities?
How did you behave?
When comparing that to today, what can you learn?

HIGHLIGHT:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - Ongoing support for couples dealing with ADHD, from trusted professionals.

Summer doesn't mean slowing down -- Checkout out our i2a program calendar (TIMES IN EASTERN TIME)

Join i2a anytime. Watch our on-demand information webinar here.

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Ongoing) - This fall: explore how money, meaning, and emotion intertwine in ADHD-impacted relationships with Christine Hargrove, dive deeper into mindfulness for both partners, and join Ari Tuckman himself for a live book club on his book The ADHD Productivity Manual! As always, you'll also have access to expert office hours, and a truly supportive community that shows up for each other.

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - ➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Sept 24th. Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. *If you wish to be notified about future live seminars, please add your name to the seminar notification list.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from the Fall '24 live seminar
*NEW Add-on: 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning!

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - ➤ REGISTER NOW . Starts Sept 9 - Nine groups to choose from. Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. NEW: LGBTQIA+ and Consensual Non-Monogamy group!

Foundations in Habit Development - (Full) - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. *If you wish to be notified about future ADHD coaching groups, please contact us.

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing). Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Full). Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.

Therapist Training & more - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

Free Resources:

Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
A large number of blog posts on various topics;
Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
Chore Score Worksheet;
Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
The ADHD Effect on Marriage was listed in Huff Post as a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question.

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."