“In the spirit of unity, hope and charity for all, we can celebrate the good, even when it falls short of the ideal.”
- Alan Jones
Celebrate the Good
When you’re struggling in your relationship it’s all too easy to focus on the problems you face, rather than celebrating the strengths in each of you and in your relationship. Yet John Gottman, one of the top marriage researchers in the country, points out that healthy relationships have about 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction. Many of you are not currently meeting that ration, and I get it.
Can you look inside yourself to find a spirit of unity, hope and charity to celebrate what is good? If you’re struggling to figure out how to do that, consider keeping a gratitude journal in which you complete the sentence “I am grateful for…” at least three times a day (I used to do this before going to bed). When you see something positive, mention it. When you have a chance to say “I love you,” do it.
We are all human and none of us always meet even our own ideals, let alone those of others. It helps when we seek grace and express it.
Are there ways you could seek out and celebrate the positives in your life and relationship?
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