Tools to Improve Your Relationship

ADHD & Marriage News - November 3, 2026

Quote of the Week

"We don’t rise to meet our expectations; we fall to our level of training.”

- Bruce Lee

Tools to Improve Your Relationship

I talk in my couples seminar about specific types of interactions that help support couples impacted by ADHD. I teach how to set up a good verbal cue (one of my favorite tools!); how to use a learning conversation to discuss tricky emotional topics; what a conflict intimacy conversation can do to help build connection; how to give a meaningful apology.

Couples usually do better when they take advantage of these tools. But they are tools – and in order to improve with them, we must practice them. I see the results in my practice – those couples who become more comfortable with, and adept at, using these sorts of interactions not only stumble less often, but recover much more quickly if there is an issue.

I urge you to embrace the tools that can improve your relationship – and train yourselves in using them effectively so that you can, indeed, rise to meet your expectations.

- Melissa

Program Spotlight(s):

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Seminars, Groups:

The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar – Live or Self-Study

Our flagship 9-session program helps couples impacted by ADHD better understand their relationship dynamics, improve communication, and create lasting change.

Choose the format that works best for you: Join our next live Zoom seminar starting Tuesday, January 19, 2027, for interactive learning and Q&A, or get started anytime with our self-study option.

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Taking Action: Relationship Skills for ADHD Partners

Join Ari Tuckman, Rachel Ban, and Melissa Orlov for our new live course designed specifically for ADHD partners to build the relationship skills for a healthier, stronger relationship.

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Intent to Action Membership (Open Enrollment)
Ongoing expert guidance, live support, and a community to help you turn insights into lasting habits.
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Non-ADHD Partner Support Groups
Join a small Zoom group (10 participants or fewer) led by ADHD-savvy professionals where you'll become part of a community exploring similar issues, learn from each other's successes and struggles, and find new ways to be your best self in your relationship.

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ADHD Partner?
New live course, Taking Action: Relationship Skills for ADHD Partners, (Starts September 16). Join Ari Tuckman, Rachel Ban, and Melissa Orlov as they teach practical skills to build a healthier, stronger relationship. → Register Now

Couples Support Groups
Join a small Zoom group (5 couples maximum) led by ADHD-savvy professionals where you'll learn alongside other couples navigating similar challenges, strengthen your connection, and build the relationship skills needed to navigate tension and restore connection together.

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ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group

Work one-on-one with an ADHD expert who understands the unique challenges faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. Many participants find that combining consulting with the Live ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar provides the greatest benefit.

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For Mental Health Professionals

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