What's Done?

ADHD & Marriage News - September 3, 2025

Quote of the Week

“One never notices what has been done; one can see only what remains to be done.”

- Marie Curie

In his impactful book, Meditations for Mortals, Oliver Burkeman offers up the idea of a ‘done’ list instead or (or in addition to) a ‘to do’ list. It’s a lovely idea because, as Curie suggests, while we may expend a good deal of energy agonizing about what still hangs over our heads, we rarely sit back and appreciate what we’ve done.

Even if you don’t want to create a list, taking 2 minutes a day to just appreciate all that you have done can provide useful perspective. You will never get everything done…but seeing that you get something important done every day can be soothing.

What have you done today so far? Perhaps you’ve:

Served a hearty breakfast for your kids and gotten them to school on time
Made the bus, even though you thought you might miss it
Put 3 bills onto autopay so you won’t miss paying them again
Found a moving company to move your piano to the basement
Took time from your busy schedule to spend half an hour outside with your partner reconnecting and catching up.
Successfully executed that difficult presentation at work

It’s likely that some of these items wouldn’t be on a to do list. Yet they are what make your days into your life and deserve appreciation. They are about making your family connected and healthy, and about supporting those you love.

What would happen if you made a ‘done’ list?

STARTING SOON:

➤ Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Starts Sept 24th Only $299:

9 regular sessions of a live lecture and live Q&A - 18 hours of live content by Zoom, answering your specific questions
Access to recordings of the live lectures and live Q&As from this session
2 BONUS pre-recorded video lessons: Medications overview; Better organization with ADHD
Optional homework and readings

➤ Non ADHD Partner Support Group - There's a lot to work through and think about when you are married to a partner with ADHD. Develop strategies for finding satisfaction and happiness.

Openings: Wednesdays at 12PM ET - Starts Sept 10th

➤ Foundations in Habit Development - Starts Oct 8th New habits take up to 3X longer to develop with ADHD in the mix. Limited to 8 participants, this group is designed to help solidify the changes you have started to make.

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) Learn more and sign up here!

September is full of expert help in i2a:

9/11: Learning Conversation Practice Office Hours with Rachel
9/7, 9/21 and 9/28: Money Talks Series: Money and ADHD Relationships Workshop Series with Dr. Christine Hargrove
9/16: Book club The ADHD Productivity Manual with Ari Tuckman
9/17: Office Hours with Melissa Orlov.
Plus the Community Forum

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - ➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Sept 24th. Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from the Fall '24 live seminar *NEW Add-on: 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning!

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - ➤ REGISTER NOW Only one group has availability - Wednesdays at 12PM ET - Starts Sept 10th. Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.

Foundations in Habit Development - ➤ REGISTER NOW Starts October 8th. This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing). Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Full). Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing). For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

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