Melissa's "Psychology Today" blog

The Dark Side of Optimism

We're used to thinking about optimism as something that is a positive force in one's life. But what if it's not?

Six Tips for Better Communication

'Good communication' is the holy grail of relationships, yet many struggling couples seek it in vain. It doesn't have to be that way.

What About Women with ADD?

A recent review of the research on ADHD in women can help women, and the partners who love them, live better with ADHD.

9 Ways to Make (Almost) Any Task Fun

Overwhelmed with things to do? Use these strategies to make checking things off your list something to look forward to.

The Danger Lurking in "I Need You To..."

"I need you to..." is sometimes a politically correct way to boss a partner around. As such, it hurts your relationship. The key is to be careful.

The 'A' Word

There’s a reason many adults hate the label ‘ADHD’. It’s cruelly synonymous with ‘incompetent,’ ‘lazy’ and ‘fail!’ to too many people who use it. This stereotyping hurts us all.

Can Adults With ADHD Really Change?

"I am who I am" and "I can't change" are more about fear than reality, and don't reflect the science around ADHD.

Can We Please Have Sex? 5 Steps to Restart Intimacy

When one partner stops your sex life it's a cry for help that adds significant tension to a marriage. Resolving the issues so you can make love again takes a sensitive approach.

Optimism and the ADHD Partner

Some partners think those with ADHD aren't taking their personal or joint marital woes seriously enough. But there may be other things going on.

If Only I Had Known About ADHD Before!

Moving beyond regret means moving yourself into a different future. Happily, for adults with ADHD and their partners, there is now good information that can help them do so.

Are 'ADHD' and 'Mistakes' Synonymous?

The symptoms of ADHD lead to many mistakes for those who have it. But the problem isn't the mistakes, it's how one views them.

Adult ADHD Impacts Kids, Too

Teens are old enough to have open conversations about what ADHD is (and is not) and how the symptoms show up in other family members.

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